Facing The Pain Of A Difficult Childhood


Self Help: Facing The Pain Of A Difficult Childhood

Our parents did us a huge disservice by teaching us to be pleasers because they stripped us of our authenticity.   Who says it’s wrong to stand on the arm of the couch and sing at the top of my lungs?  My parents couldn’t have known for sure that I wasn’t going to be the next top singing superstar?  They meant well.  They didn’t want to get a headache, or have us be chided by friends, or wounded by failure.  They mostly just wanted to protect you.  But, how do you get over the one or many things they did to you that you’ve been carrying throughout your entire life, feeling angry, hurt, and resentful over?
There are many modalities I have used to help me heal from layers and layers of issues from my childhood that I have carried into my adulthood.  Here’s a list of some of the things I have tried that worked for me:

 EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques® or Tapping (as EFT is becoming known.)
 Breath-work  / Rebirthing
 Journaling
 Past Life Regression
 Affirmations
 Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
 Visualizing
 Modeling
 H’opo ono pono
 Meditation
 The Forgiveness Diet
 Reiki
 Acupuncture
 Craniosacral
 Yoga

There are some other modalities that I have not tried that have worked for others:

 Hypnosis
 Rolfing & Massage
 Art Therapy
 Dream Revision Therapy
 EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
 Somatic Imagery
 Chakra Energy Healing
 Muscle Testing /  Kinesiology
 Drumming Circles & Chanting
 Movement Psychotherapy
 Anger Management Treatment
 Religious doctrines
 Tarot, Parapsychology, Intuitives
 Feldenkrais
 Qigong
 Vibrational Attunement
 And many more

The type of modality is not important.  What does matter is that you:
1. Explore the Modality that feels right to you – Doing something just because someone else suggested it will not work if it doesn’t feel right to you.  Listen to your inner voice and research a new modality.  Then try the one or two that speak to your values and beliefs and resonate with you.  Believing something will work for you is half the battle.  Finding something you love and that feels right - down to your core - is what will produce the best results for you.

2. Reach a place of Forgiveness – Forgiving your parents, or anyone who abused you, does not make what they did right.  It allows you to free yourself from the bondage of the feelings that are holding you hostage and keeping you from moving forward in your life.  The forgiveness diet and journaling helped me the most to reach a place of forgiveness with my parents and others who I perceived wronged me.  Reach a place of forgiveness and set yourself free.

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Stacy Corrigan

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Stacy Corrigan, The Rocket from Woonsocket, founder of www.ManifestYourMan.net

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