Gifts from Former Lovers

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Gifts from Former Lovers


Once you have finished writing everything down you can think of, take a deep breath in, and expel your breath fully, releasing it with a great big sigh. Then take one more breath in and shake your hands at your sides as you exhale – as if you were shaking off wet hands without a towel to dry them. Then stretch your arms to the ceiling and elongate your spine to stretch your body as fully as you can, arching your back slightly. If you are standing while stretching, step up onto your tiptoes, fully flex all your leg muscles, and reach for the sky.  Then, release your stretch and sit back comfortably. Do you notice a difference in how you feel from having just done one energy shifting stretch?


Okay, now let’s look at the gifts these men have brought you. You might be thinking, “That knucklehead didn’t give me a darn thing.” If that’s the case, I would have to respectfully disagree with you. Anyone who can bring an intense level of energy out in you must have hit a nerve. This awareness alerts you to a painful experience from your past, or challenges a belief you hold about yourself, others, or relationships.


For example, it could be your dad was cold, distant, and unloving, and you keep attracting men who fill that role for you by treating you poorly just like your dad did. Or, possibly, you may have been abused when you were young and express a dysfunction in relationships by being either too frigid or too promiscuous. Maybe you always said yes when your partner wanted sex even if you weren’t in the mood, because you are deeply afraid of being rejected.


Okay, good. Now, take thirty seconds for each guy on your list and write down some good things about him. It could be as simple as you liked his smile, or how he cut his hair, or he always dressed neatly. Or it could be as important as he was always kind to you and your family, he was financially stable, or he may have been generous. By writing things down quickly, your subconscious takes over and you do not have time to second guess or judge what you have written. Commit to doing this exercise in a stream of consciousness style to get the most benefit from it. Your heart remembers things your mind may have forgotten, and doing this exercise this way allows you to access your heart memories.


It doesn’t matter how many or how few relationships you have, it matters what you take away from each one to help you choose better for yourself the next time around. It could take a lot of practice for you, like it took me, or you could resolve many of your familial issues with just a few significant, meaningful, aha moments. Everyone is different, so don’t judge whether you’ve had many relationships or just a few. Whatever your experience, it was exactly the right one for you. 


Begin to embrace your past relationships in a spirit of gratitude and appreciation. Engaging the good feelings about people and clearing out the negative feelings you have been holding will release you, allow you to feel light and free, and will bring your man closer to you as the weight lifts from your shoulders. You are beginning to become irresistible to your man.

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Stacy Corrigan

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Stacy Corrigan, The Rocket from Woonsocket, founder of www.ManifestYourMan.net

Chief Manifester, Speaker, and Author of the Award winning book Manifest Your Man® 

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