What Cindy Crawford & Oprah Unknowingly Taught Us About Marriage

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What Cindy Crawford & Oprah Unknowingly Taught Us About Marriage
What did Cindy Crawford teach us about marriage that Oprah maybe didn't intend her to??

Cindy Crawford is going to be on OWN this weekend on Oprah’s Master Class teaching what she has learned from being married to her husband Rande Gerber for 15 years.

In the clip today on Oprah.com Cindy talks about how being friends with Rande first, gave them a BASE for their relationship that they won’t drop below. It’s the best foundation for their marriage, Cindy says.

Of course, I agree. Not everyone gets to have that, but friendship is an awesome foundation for long term intimate relationships.  Just ask my husband Paul who was my best friend for three years before we ever dated!

Now, having such a strong friendship creates its own unique challenges for intimacy and passion, but I’ll talk about that another day.

What I really want to illuminate is a lesson that Cindy teaches us in this clip that neither she NOR Oprah probably intended or probably even realize.

And let me just say up front that I love Cindy and I love Oprah. Ok, are we good?

Great, let’s tear this apart and see a dynamic that is going on that neither of these two great women are probably aware of.

Here is Cindy’s quote from the clip:

“I have meltdowns at home. I don’t do that at work, because it’s not professional, it’s not appropriate.”  “We all have those days, at home, where you don’t have to have on your game face… as much”

That line, stopped me in my tracks. So let’s dig in.

For most of the female population, this quote should resonate with you? Yes? Most ladies feel that they can’t have a “meltdown” at work. I’ll get to that in a minute. But how about the next part?

Game Face…which by definition, is not your REAL face.

It’s interesting that someone who is so famous for her beautiful face feels the need to cover it up at work…and at home.

In my experience, most women yearn for the space in their lives where they can be loved and cherished for being completely themselves.

Where, having a “meltdown”, dropping the “game face”, all of that, is ok and SAFE. A space where we can be authentically who we are and NOT get hurt.

It’s like a flower.

We want to be able to completely OPEN as a flower. To be our most authentic selves, put down our weapons that we use to protect ourselves, without the threat that someone is going to take a jab at us when the flower is open, right?

That brings me to Cindy’s game face.

Do you have a game face? What does that mean to you?

My hallucination is that Cindy’s game face is when she uses her masculine tool-set to protect herself from getting hurt, to keep her meltdown’s at bay and present a “professional” persona.

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Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges that intimate relationship brings. Stacey firmly believes that it absolutely does NOT take two to tango, that one person can significantly shift the dynamics of the relationship. 

Through targeted, strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation System™, Stacey empowers you to transform your intimate relationship without needing your partner to participate in order for this to work for you!

Trained and certified by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Stacey is a certified marriage educator and divorce preventionist. Stacey is a sought-after relationship expert appearing on numerous media outlets and telesummits and is the Relationship Expert for Aspire Magazine.  Download Stacey's free audio program, “How to Transform Your Relationship in Eight Steps” at  http://RelationshipTransformationSystem.com

 

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