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Responsibility and Playfulness!

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Your so busy "doing it all"...and he wants to "joke around"? A common mistake couples make!

I’ll get to “playfulness” in a bit, but first I want to talk about…

 

Responsibility!

Responsibility is awesome, there’s nothing wrong with responsibility.

BUT…when you start to feel responsible for everything, all the time, always responsible for every situation…it becomes a little…exhausting!

Balance…

There’s a part of you that’s responsible, there’s a part of you that’s playful, there’s a part of you that’s resourceful, there’s a part of you that’s FREE.

You are many parts; you are not just one thing.

 

As women, sometimes we get so crazy hooked on responsibility and care-giving that we exhaust ourselves.  We burn out.

And our men, if we let them, have a gift to bring us, to help balance us out.  They provide playfulness.

 

Men naturally bring playfulness forth to balance us out.

It’s not because they don’t understand all that we have going on, it’s because they DO. 

They sense our stress and maybe even our overwhelm.  Their way of fixing it, serving us and providing for us is to “lighten the mood”, make us laugh…balance us out by offering playfulness!

 

Unfortunately, what I see most often is….women don’t accept this gift. (Because we don’t understand it.)  Many women get frustrated, annoyed and even angry with their man, for bringing playfulness in.

Often women will see a man’s joking or fooling around as unsophisticated, irresponsible, childish and unsupportive of all the serious stuff we are juggling at the time.

 

Sound familiar?

Perhaps we may also feel his playfulness as opposite to our agenda of “responsibility”.

 

We may see him as causing more “out of control”, when all we’re trying to do is “control”, handle and be responsible for everything in our environment. 

So when he brings in playful energy, we can see this as him causing more “work” for us because he’s bringing us “out of control”.  Or even worse, HE is becoming one more thing we must find a way to control or handle.

But that is the gift he is trying to give.

 

At one point in our lives, perhaps the controlling part of us took over?  Maybe it has run-a-muck and it’s not serving us anymore?

Can you think back to a time in your life when you were more balanced?  When you were producing great results and still able to have fun and let go? 

Perhaps your life was less complicated back then, but just take a moment and think back anyway.

 

What part of YOU was “running the show” back then?  Think of yourself at that time...really feel what you felt like back then.  You could "let go" and have fun and also kick butt and get it done.  Who was that girl....what was her name?

That part of you understood balance...and she's still in you.  She’s just not been “running your show” for you in a long time.

Call on her.  Call back that girl in you who was more balanced.  Let her step forth and take a stronger lead in your life today.  And then you can begin to enjoy, appreciate and cherish the playfulness that our men bring to us.

 

When you can do that, you can begin to cherish the very thing that used to drive you crazy!  And THAT is a KEY to a magnificent love affair!!!

Sending love,

Stacey Martino

Founder, http://LoveAndPassionCoach.com
"Where couples create an unshakable love and an unleashed passion that lasts a lifetime!"™


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Stacey Martino is the founder of http://LoveandPassionCoach.com, where couples create an unshakable love and unleashed passion that lasts a lifetime!  


Stacey and her husband Paul created their magnificent love affair and together created the Eight Step Relationship Transformation System™. The proven system helping couples all over the world to create their own unshakable love and unleashed passion!

This article was originally published at Stacey Martino Love and Passion Coach. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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