I only have one question for you and it is this: have you seen Frozen yet? If you haven't, you must go! Even if you don't have kids, you must see this movie. The life and love lessons in this film are amazing. This is my all-time favorite Disney movie now. Let's begin...
Elsa, the oldest Princess in the kingdom is born under a "curse." She has the power to create ice and snow. Out of their fear that their daughters will be harmed because of what makes Elsa different in the world, her parents teach her to suppress her uniqueness.
"Conceal, don't feel, don't let them know."
Elsa spends her whole life in isolation trying to protect herself and her family from her ultimate fear: anyone finding out about her "Icy Powers." Her powers get stronger and stronger over time, which makes it harder and harder for her to suppress who she really is. Then one day, Elsa's worst fears come true and everyone finds out anyway. he worst thing she could imagine happens. Everyone finds out and she has to run!
"A kingdom of isolation and it looks like I’m the queen.
The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside.
Couldn't keep it in, Heaven knows I tried.
Don't let them in, don't let them see. Be the good girl you always have to be.
Conceal don't feel, don't let them know.
Well, now they know!"
Somewhere in the process of running, she realizes the freedom that comes when you walk straight into the thing that you fear the most! Watch her realization here:
"It's funny how some distance, makes everything seem small.
And the fears that once controlled me, can't get to me at all
It's time to see what I can do, to test the limits and break through.
No right, no wrong, no rules for me. I'm free!"
Very often in life, the very thing that we are most afraid of is the one thing that we must do! Once you walk straight into it, you take away the power it had over you. The fear that controlled you is gone.
And then of course she gets to experience the power of her gift. She can do great things with her Icy Powers. Sure, there's risk in that power, but there's also greatness. Yes, her parents had the best of intention when they tried to help her be "the good girl" they thought she had to be.
But it turns out they were wrong. She has a gift. A magical gift. You watch her and you see the power of her most authentic self-transform her as she owns herself completely!
So, my darling, what if they were wrong? With the best of intentions for you, what if they were wrong? What if you didn't have to be that? What if you truly could be your most authentic self, with all your unique gifts and powers that make you completely different than everyone Elsa? Sure, maybe you don't make snow come out of your hands.
But, what is it for you?
Let me ask you this way. Sweetie, what is the one part of yourself that you are most afraid of? The thing you will do the most to avoid? What is the thing that you hide? What's the part of yourself that you deny? What would they never accept you to be? What could you never be to get their love?
What's your "Conceal, Don't Feel, Don't Let Them Know?"
And my darling, what if you… LET IT GO? What if you walked straight into the fear and let it go? How free would you be? How much more energy would you have for life? That part of you that you deny, the piece that you suppress, that's your power. It may not be a Snow making magic power, but it's your power!
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