If I am True to Myself, People Will LOVE the Truth in Me!

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If I am True to Myself, People Will LOVE the Truth in Me!
Are you exhausted from worrying about what others think of you? Benefit from my painful discovery!

“If I am true to myself, people will LOVE the truth in me.” - Stacey Martino

I wrote that at a Date With Destiny event with Tony Robbins back in 2008…a life changing experience.

It was at that event that I made the decision to STOP being anything that I wasn’t and to STOP judging others for whatever they were or were not being too.

It was actually quite a painful discovery for me.  That moment of decision was beautiful, but as you might imagine, the path to that moment was really brutal.  On that path I came face to face with something that I had been completely unconscious about for my entire life.

I was always worried about what other people thought of me, and just “assumed” that everyone else thought that way too.  It was a tough moment when I discovered that was not the case.  It was really tough when I realized that my way of “worry” was actually a choice.

But nothing prepared me for the moment when I had one of the greatest and life changing awakenings of my life.

My constant thoughts of what people thought of me were actually always present because I was also ALWAYS judging others in comparison to myself.   By definition right?  In order to conjecture someone’s judgment of me I would have to judge them or at least make an evaluation of them in comparison to myself to know where I stand.

So obvious…and yet completely off my radar.

Within moments of realizing that I was the biggest JUDGER in the universe, I realized that it was judging OTHERS that left me feeling like crap all the time….and not my worrying about what they thought of me.  On top of that, it was EXHAUSTING to always be judging others.

Then my freedom came….“If I am true to myself, people will LOVE the truth in me!”  It just came through me in my notebook…like a “download” from above.

That was it for me.  Forever changed.

So what does this have to do with my feature on stage at the Monetize Your Message event earlier this month (video link)?  Actually, a hell of a lot.

I promise you this – just five years ago, there is no way that I would have been the “Stacey” you see in this video.  No freakin’ way.  Just five years ago, you would have seen “Boardroom Stacey” – very professional, very serious, very calculated, very closed, and behind it all….very scared about what everyone must be thinking about ME on stage.

Certainly I’m very blessed to have been at that Date with Destiny event and have that breakthrough.  You don’t need to be at that event to benefit from my lesson!

For me, it’s so incredibly worth it, there aren’t even words that I can use to fully express how much I love my life today.  But how about YOU decide for yourself?

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Stacey Martino

Relationship Coach

Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges that intimate relationship brings. Stacey firmly believes that it absolutely does NOT take two to tango, that one person can significantly shift the dynamics of the relationship. 

Through targeted, strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation System™, Stacey empowers you to transform your intimate relationship without needing your partner to participate in order for this to work for you!

Trained and certified by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Stacey is a certified marriage educator and divorce preventionist. Stacey is a sought-after relationship expert appearing on numerous media outlets and telesummits and is the Relationship Expert for Aspire Magazine.  Download Stacey's free audio program, “How to Transform Your Relationship in Eight Steps” at  http://RelationshipTransformationSystem.com

 

Location: Newtown, PA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Marriage
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