How Often Do You Say 'Yes?'

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How Often Do You Say 'Yes?'
The "Yes point" is where you either elevate yourself up to the next level on your mountain or… NOT!

This week was life changing for Paul and I, and the ripple effect from this week gives me chills when I imagine it! What happened?

On Tuesday, Paul and I went up to Connecticut to strategize and plan with our friends and mentors Fabienne and Derek Fredrickson. It wasn't the first time we've been there. So, why was this day different than all other days?

A few days after Valentine's Day, Paul and I began to lay out our plan for the rest of 2014 and how we were going to serve in an even bigger way, help even more people than ever, give even more than we have already, stretch ourselves, live our purpose and have a total blast doing it!

As part of our plan for 2014, Paul and I are creating something that is a huge dream of ours to create and it's something we've never created before! For now, let's just call it "The Big Thing."

I remember the moment vividly. As I asked myself the question, "How are we going to create this Big Thing in the way that creates the greatest good for the most people?"I immediately got the download "Maybe you should strategize this with Fabienne and Derek." And of course, I shook that off, and continued ahead.

The next time we started working on the plans for the Big Thing, the download came again, like a quick thought or voice: "Work with Derek and Fabienne on this. They've done this Big Thing already. In fact, it was their idea for you to do the Big Thing."

So I asked Paul, "Hmmmm, babe, I keep getting the 'download,' maybe we should talk to Fabienne and Derek about working with them to create the strategy and planning for the Big Thing?"

Here's the thing, I'm a Modeler! Yeah, I'm just gonna totally make up that word—it works, so I'm stickin' with it!

After nearly two decades of training with Tony Robbins I have learned the science of Modeling. No, not posing for pictures! Modeling: Decide your outcome, find someone who has already successfully achieved your outcome and is happily teaching others how to achieve that outcome with repeatable success and model what they are doing, so that you get the same outcome!

Big Fan!

When I teach this to my private clients, I use the Mountain metaphor. There's always going to be someone who's further up your mountain than you are. They may not be at the top of that mountain yet, but they've already successfully navigated the part you are trying to climb right now! So. let them throw down a rope to you and pull you right up!

I'm a love and passion expert! But if no one knows about me, how can I serve people and live my purpose? I'm not a "client attraction" expert. Fabienne and Derek are further up our mountain. That's why we work with the Fredricksons. Because they throw the rope down and pull us up!

Sounds so easy right! If it was that easy, everyone would be at the top of their mountain! What's required in order to get that rope and hoist yourself to your next level? The Yes! It all comes back to the Yes.

The "Yes point" is where you either elevate yourself up to the next level on your mountain or...NOT!

So, we talked to Fabienne and Derek and, as always, they are so gracious and incredibly supportive and wildly passionate about us getting our message out there to serve as many people as we can possibly reach! And so they offered us the rope to pull us up the mountain!

Here's a secret for you: Your tope will always come to you in the form of an opportunity! In this case, a private VIP day with Fabienne and Derek at their home, just the four of us to strategize and plan our Big Thing!

So, Paul and I are there looking at the "rope" that Fabienne and Derek tossed down to us. It's a solid rope and I have no doubt about the it. I know that Fabienne and Derek used this rope to get to where they are on the mountain. I watched them do it and I know "the rope" works!

But, I've never climbed that part of the mountain. I've never used that rope. What if I say "Yes," and it turns out that the rope only works for other people and not me? What if I miss my chance to do something else? Hey, maybe there's an elevator on this mountain, did anyone check? There's a lot of unknowns about taking that rope. So, I've said it before and I'll say it again:

Faith is saying "Yes" to the opportunity when you have no certainty of the outcome!

We know this mountain. We know they are much farther up the mountain. We watched them go successfully. We've watched them take other people successfully up this mountain. We are going up the freakin' mountain! These are our guides. We are taking that rope! We said "Yes!"

When you take a decisive action and say, "Yes" to the right opportunity in faith several things happen:

  1. Magic happens! It's like the universe gets the message: "Oh, they're serious about this!" and starts to line up the resources and next steps that you need to achieve your outcome. You don't have to believe me...just try it for yourself!
  2. You instantly realize that the only real uncertainty would have been the risk in trying to figure out how to scale that mountain on your own without a rope and not succeeding or worse, taking a big fall! (that's a huge one…read that again!)
  3. Expert Guidance combined with Massive Action combined with Big Intention and the Helping Hands of the universe make you UNSTOPPABLE! Keep Reading...

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Stacey Martino

Relationship Coach

Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges that intimate relationship brings. Stacey firmly believes that it absolutely does NOT take two to tango, that one person can significantly shift the dynamics of the relationship. 

Through targeted, strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation System™, Stacey empowers you to transform your intimate relationship without needing your partner to participate in order for this to work for you!

Trained and certified by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Stacey is a certified marriage educator and divorce preventionist. Stacey is a sought-after relationship expert appearing on numerous media outlets and telesummits and is the Relationship Expert for Aspire Magazine.  Download Stacey's free audio program, “How to Transform Your Relationship in Eight Steps” at  http://RelationshipTransformationSystem.com

 

Location: Newtown, PA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Marriage
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