Buckle Up Buttercup...It's Round Two!

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Buckle Up Buttercup...It's Round Two!
Want to know how you get your spouse to get on board with XYZ?

Ok, buckle up buttercup because here comes ….Round 2!

The timing of this is oh so perfect…I just got back from an AMAZING week at an extraordinary event, Monetize Your Message, packed with over 400 entrepreneurs ready to take their message out to the masses to make this world a better place! LOVE IT!

Whenever I’m at these events, a pattern seems to form.  Entrepreneur after entrepreneur approaches me to discuss some of the challenges they face in their relationship…and ultimately in their business too.See entrepreneurs know that their business impacts their relationship.  Any entrepreneur will tell you that.  But what many of them don’t recognize right away is the HUGE impact their relationship has on their BUSINESS.

Time after time, entrepreneurs, and people with demanding careers, are presented with opportunities to take their business to the next level…but their first flinch (or pull back) is “But my spouse!”I hear it all the time… “But my spouse will just kill me if I ….”  or “If I do one more event, one more program, one more XYZ, my spouse is gonna freak!”

Time and time again this is an issue for entrepreneurs and people with demanding jobs.  And the question I get asked most often is

“How can I get my spouse to get on board with XYZ?”

You know me well enough by now, right?  I’m just going to get right to it with you, ok?

You are asking the WRONG QUESTION.

Listen sweetie, if your spouse felt that they were number one in your world, without question, there would be ZERO ISSUE with you taking your business to the next level.

PERIOD.

In fact, they would be bringing ideas to YOU saying things like “Hey, we should do this for your business…check this out!”

It’s actually very simple.

The fundamental reason why a spouse will consistently PUSH BACK when it comes to your growth in your business is because they are competing with your business for your attention and priority!  Why would they want you to put MORE time and attention into something that they are competing with for your attention and priority???

The truth is….if your spouse felt that they were #1 in your life, then they would support YOU being the best version of yourself…no matter what form that took!

So it just comes down to this – Your partner needs to be your number one, above all else, including your business!

Take an honest look at your life and your relationship.  How do you show up each day?  Where is your “center of gravity”?  Would your partner say that they are number one in your life?  above work, above everything?  Or would they say that they are second to your business…maybe even third, fourth or fifth?

Be honest and take a look at how you have shown up (until now).

You want to grow your business, you want to get out there in a bigger way and serve, right?! Awesome, me too!

This article was originally published at Stacey Martino Love and Passion Coach. Reprinted with permission.
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Stacey Martino

Relationship Coach

Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges that intimate relationship brings. Stacey firmly believes that it absolutely does NOT take two to tango, that one person can significantly shift the dynamics of the relationship. 

Through targeted, strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation System™, Stacey empowers you to transform your intimate relationship without needing your partner to participate in order for this to work for you!

Trained and certified by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Stacey is a certified marriage educator and divorce preventionist. Stacey is a sought-after relationship expert appearing on numerous media outlets and telesummits and is the Relationship Expert for Aspire Magazine.  Download Stacey's free audio program, “How to Transform Your Relationship in Eight Steps” at  http://RelationshipTransformationSystem.com

 

Location: Newtown, PA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Marriage
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