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Are You Celebrating Your Love On Monday, February 17th??

Are You Celebrating Your Love On Monday, February 17th??
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How loved and cherished will you feel on Monday?

Valentine’s Day was February 14th!!!! YIIIPPPPEEEEE!!!

And Monday is February 17th…YIIPPPEEEEEE!!!

Huh?

I’ll explain.

How loved and cherished will you feel on Monday? How much passion will you create in your intimate relationship on Monday? How are you showing your partner that they are your number one on Monday?

Valentine’s Day is LOVEly! Don’t get me wrong, I love Valentine’s Day!

But let me ask you this….is it enough for you to just feel special to your partner one day a year? Just feel loved one day a year? Only feel that excitement of passion and desire one day a year?

I didn’t think so.

Here’s the thing….Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to put FOCUS and ENERGY into your relationship and experience the effects of that….feeling cherished and wanted, deepening our connection, experiencing the energy of desire for our partner and feeling them craving you!

What about the other 364 days of the year?

Now, I’m not saying that “every day should be Valentine’s Day” with cards, and presents and special plans.  But if you really ask your partner, they might tell you that while those gestures are wonderful, the best part about Valentine’s Day is not the stuff!

It’s the feeling of being cherished, desired, special, adored, wanted and truly loved!

Everyone wants to feel that way, all the time. And you don’t need to do everything you do on Valentine’s Day to make your partner feel that way on a random Tuesday.

Coincidentally, I’m writing this article during an ice storm here and we have lost power due to down trees and poles.   We live in an area with a lot of trees and we actually lose power often.  In fact, when we lose power here, we often lose it for 6 or more days at a time.  After Hurricane Sandy I think we were out of power for 12 days!  Don’t worry, we are used to it. We have a generator that keeps our heater running and our refrigerators powered.

Why do I mention this?  What does losing power have to do with Valentine’s Day?

When we lose power, my kids know that there’s no TV and very little time on tablets and games.  Since the house is dark, except the one light we have in the kitchen, we all usually hang out at the kitchen table.  We play UNO, we do puzzles and yesterday we played Monopoly!

It’s not exactly convenient to be without power, so I certainly don’t want to go through this every day.  But the “fun family time” that we get from being without power is really awesome!

So years ago, Paul and I put “off the grid” time into our week with the kids.  Of course, we do all kinds of things with the kids, but once a week (most weeks) we come together and play a game or do something completely “unplugged” as if the power was out!   We also incorporated “unplugged” play with them into each night before bed!

We took the “gift” of the power outage and added it into our regular lives to enhance our experience with our kids!!

The beauty is, during those “unplugged” family fun times, I can still prepare a hot meal for my kids, we are still warm and Paul doesn’t have to keep checking on the generator, the gas and all the stuff that goes into keeping this house safe during a storm!

I took what was “great” about the power outage and scheduled that into our regular days and weeks instead of “waiting” for a power outage to create those magic moments with our kids!

So, what does this have to do with Valentine’s Day you ask?

You may not spend $100 on flowers, bring home chocolate or book a fancy dinner this Saturday or any other “regular day,” but what PIECE of Valentine’s Day can you bring into your daily life each week or each day?

Maybe it’s daily texts with kisses?  Maybe it’s telling your partner how much they REALLY mean to you every day? Maybe it’s a date night a few times a month? It doesn’t have to be an expensive dressed up dinner…you could just grab a sandwich and go sit on a bench somewhere.

Take what makes your partner feel SPECIAL, CHERISHED, DESIRED and WANTED from Valentine’s Day and schedule that into your day and week! Yes, schedule it! Valentine’s Day is ON the calendar sweetie! And that’s why it always gets done!

Schedule your focus and energy for your partner on your calendar, so it also always gets done!!!

It’s NO less romantic to schedule your romance…just like it’s NO less romantic to schedule your SEX! That’s right! We are busy people and if you wait for spontaneous and accidental romance or sex you are NOT getting enough of it! That’s just the truth!

Think of it this way….when you schedule your partner on your calendar, you are saying to them, “YOU are important enough for me to schedule you on my calendar! YOU will get done ;)”

Just ask the woman who gets flowers once a week or a love note every day if she feels LESS cherished because her man set a reminder to make SURE he cherishes his woman!

Just ask the man who is having sex with his wife 3 or 4 times a week because she scheduled it on her calendar if he feels any less WANTED by his woman?! When he stops smiling, he might be able to get the words out and tell you!

So take the pieces of Valentine’s Day that you love and schedule them into your regular days! Every day can be Valentine’s Day sweetie!

Sending love,

Stacey

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Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges that intimate relationship brings. Through targeted, strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation™, Relationship Rescue™ and Relationship Transition™ programs, individuals learn to use her proven strategies and tools to create an unshakable love and unleashed passion that lasts a lifetime.

Stacey firmly believes that it absolutely does NOT take two to tango, that one person can significantly shift the dynamics of the relationship. Clients have praised Stacey for helping them to see massive results in record time. Formerly known as "The Ice Princess", Stacey is intimately aware of what it takes to transform oneself to be ready to both give and receive love and passion like you have never experienced before.
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