Anyone who knows me understands that I am going to wear what I want and I do not care what anyone has to say about it. However, I have noticed a recent changing of women who allow other people (namely man) dictate to them how to look, what they wear, and how they wear it. So much so, that the women actually start to get paranoid and feel bad about them self, because of what a man says. I have seen women be afraid to post picture because of the criticism they may get. I have seen women afraid to pick out an outfit for being fearful or weather "he" may like or not. I personally think that this is utterly and completely bonkers. No one can make you feel inadequate about yourself, unless you allow it.
I want to tell you a secret women. Sometimes men will intentional judge you, pick with you about what you are wearing, or mock your appearance, so they can try to get control of you. The only reason why they criticize you, is because they want to see how you are going to react. They want to see if you are going to take off those pants they told you were ugly or if you are going to tell them to kick rocks. The moment you start bending and transforming into what other people want you to be, is the moment you give control of yourself to someone else.
In regard to your overall well-being: Self esteem is the center of it. When a man looks at you, they can tell how low you feel about yourself and the men who prey off that type of woman will be drawn right to you. I once watched a movie about a serial killer. He openly admitted to picking women that had low self esteem, because it was easy to get over on them. And he was a serial killer! The moral of this story is do not let anyone tell you about your self, do not let anyone make you feel bad about yourself, do not let anyone tell you what you can be or can't be, and most of all, do not let anyone make you feel ugly or sub par.
The only person that should be able to affect the way you feel about yourself is you. If you are in a relationships were a man puts you down, get out, get out now! That is not love, it is just his way of having control over you. And last but not least, until you feel good about yourself, no one is is going to feel good about you. You get what you put out.
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