How to have Expectation in a Relationship

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How to have Expectation in a Relationship
This article focuses on not settling for anyone, but learning to have expectations.

  If he really planned on getting married, he would have to leave his aunt and his sister anyway….or at least I hope.  So if at this point and time he felt that he could not leave their home, then there would be not future for us.  I needed someone that was ready to be with me fully if we were to get married, and not have reasons as to why they could not move on to the next level.  So like I said, it would not have worked.   If you still think that I am being mean take a look at Ephesians 5:31 that says "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh" and Genesis 2:24 that says "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."  This is both in the New and Old Testament, so make no mistake about what I am saying in regards to this.

With that being said his reasoning was an excuse to me.  He called me materialistic but its whatever, what did he want me to say.  If you want more and desire more for yourself and from your mate, do not allow thm to throw that word at you.  Since when did working hard so that you can achieve goals in life and wanting the same from a man equal materialism?  Since when did wanting a 42 year old man to have a place of his own materialism?  I think of it as something natural that a grown man would want to do at that age.  But I could be wrong…(I am being sarcastic, I am not wrong). 

Some women may say it is mean, but this is what I am talking about women, hold men accountable!  I am a single mother and have worked hard in school education wise and in other areas of my life!  It was not easy,therefore expecting the same from a male is not unreasonable.  In addition, as a 42 year old man even if he did live with his aunt because she was sick, then what was his excuse about not having a car.  To me that spells lazy.  You have a job, your living with you aunt; have minimal bills to pay, and you still have no car.  What are you doing with your money?  This spells immaturity, that at 42 your life is not together and you have no career choice.  For me that is a problem, and for you it should be a problem.


I am not trying to rag on this man.  What I am trying to do is show you how this really looks from the outside looking in for women to chase after men that have no type of husband material.  If you are in a relationship with a man like this, let go.  If you are single, then going forward do not enter a relationship like this.   For me, a single mother who I bring into my life as a mate will eventually be around my son, he needs to be an example for my son and exemplify what a man is supposed to be.  If you are a single mother or for any women, when you are looking at dating a man, really think to yourself do I want my son to grow up and be like this man or think when I have a son do I want him to grow up and be this man.  Another question is if you would want your daughter to marry a man like this, or if you had a daughter would you want her to marry a man like this.  If the answer is no, then stop dating him and/or stop bringing him around your kids. 

Enjoyed reading this article and want tor read more. Check out Sophia’s blog at http://therapyncounseling.blogspot.com 

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