How to have Expectation in a Relationship

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How to have Expectation in a Relationship
This article focuses on not settling for anyone, but learning to have expectations.

Okay so expectations are a big one for use women.  I used to be one of those women that did not have expectations.  My expectation first consisted of a person that was interested in me, then to one that was cute, but this did not serve me well. Now I am to the point that I do not even entertain those that I know are not right for me.  I think a large reason why I entertained those in the past for the simple fact I was bored, I wanted to attention, or I thought that perhaps they would grow on me and I would not want to turn down somebody that was the one, so I just kind of gave everyone a chance.  

I think even on some level, I may have felt like I needed men around me in order to validate myself. As women we have allowed men to get away with way too much, by sleeping with this one and that one and then us.  By sleeping with engaged, taken, or even married men. Enough is enough and you deserve better. I have noticed that a trend of men in which they do not want to court women or even take them out on dates.  Some of the men I have dated even told me that they wanted a woman to take care of them…WHAT!!!  This goes against everything that manhood is.  And there are some women that are feeding into this nonsense.

There are women that are paying on dates, paying for a man’s food, rent, bills, child support, allowing him to sit on his butt all day while they go to work.  I have been on dates, when the man does not want to buy food, where the man watches me eat while they eat nothing, for the sake of being cheap.  I mean some of this is really ridicules.  If you are dating a man like this, you need to stop and move on.  Do not pass go and do not collect $200.  That is crazy.  If God is willing to make the man the head of the household and want the wives to submit, how in the world can that be if the man cannot or are not willing to even provide financial for their family.  Or to even have a plan to take care of a family, and think that this is perfectly acceptable.  Since when did we allow men to stop being men, and allow them to stay in a boy state, and not grow up?  I cannot even blame the men really.  I blame women; it is because that we are willing to accept any and everything from a man in order to keep a man, or say that we have one.... therefore allowing them to slide by with nonsense.

Women need to stop making excuses for them and allow them to be men.  Let’s take the example  with a 42 year old man that live with his aunt and sister, that tried to date me.  He eventually he asked me to tell me what was wrong with him, insisting that he was a nice guy, and in reality he was.  But my response was this.  I told him that I could not see myself entering a relationship with him because he did not have himself together.   He told me that he was living with his aunt and sister because she was sick and had no car because it broke down.  I did feel sad for a second but he was still not the one for me.  At the end of the day, we could not really date.  I would have to come to his house, pick him up, go on the date, take him home, and drive myself back home.  His lack of motivation of being a man was not going to work.

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