After careful consideration, you’ve finally decided to try online dating. Good for you!! You’ve searched through hundreds of profiles and you’ve stumbled upon a few interesting singles, but what do you do next? You want to send your online crush a message, but you’re not sure how to catch and keep his or her attention. Here are a few tips to make sure your online correspondence is helping you to meet people, not hurting you….
1. Early on, stay away from questions that are too personal.
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Avoid asking about things that could cause a negative reaction, like details of a divorce, for example. Check out your crush’s profile and find a lighthearted subject that peaks your interest. He or she is sure to mention something that you’ll find intriguing…something that won’t make either of your uncomfortable. Also, don’t share every person detail of your life via online mail. Make sure there are a few topics you haven’t discussed at length so they can be discussed on a date. There’s nothing worse than running out of things to talk about on your date because you were overly anxious during the online process.
2. Don't overdo it.
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Send no more than 2 initial messages in the beginning…if you don’t hear a response, move on to someone else. With online dating as with regular dating, you don’t want to wear out your welcome. If you don’t get a timely response after two messages, it’s time to move on and find someone who would be happy to make your acquaintance.