A first date is not necessarily about finding a mate or even finding a soulmate. But if things go well, this is exactly what it could lead to, so you need to be careful about what you say and what you don’t say in order to increase your chances of finding out whether this is the man for you.
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First impressions last a lifetime so if you want to be remembered as a confident person, speak with confidence. No guy likes a girl who speaks into her napkin or hands, figuratively and literally speaking. Speak about yourself honestly and, more importantly, be direct in what you say. However, this can often come across as rude, so err on the side of caution if you feel that your tone is too brusque. You want to balance directness with the right amount of coyness but being sincere is something you definitely want to do.
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Ask a lot of ‘interested’ questions. People love talking about themselves and things that interest them so hobbies, family, likes and dislikes, interesting stories from work, current events are usually big hits with both men and women. But keep away like the plague from the usual controversial topics like political views and religious beliefs; these usually lead to heated discussions rather than engaging conversations. Also stay away from talking about past relationships, even if they were bad experiences (especially if they were bad), because you’re taking the focus away from the two of you.