A way with words...


A way with words...

“Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs”
 --Pearl Strachan

What was your first word? Mummy? Dad? Banana? From day dot we’re pushed, prodded and coached to take in vocabulary and, for the best part, we all get on fine. That is, until we’re challenged to sit down and write A Really Hard Thing.

Whether it’s a CV, letter to a friend, competition entry or online dating profile – at the heart of the Really Hard Thing’s success is the words that we choose to use.

It would help if the dictionary was a clear-cut guide that helped out with negative and positive connotations – but with, for example, ‘great guy’ ‘lovely’ ‘cute’ and ‘simple’ meaning different things to every person, dating profiles in particular are a minefield of words. Both in how you choose to describe yourself (‘Oh god, I’d never describe myself as handsome, it sounds really arrogant) but also how people may react to your profile online (‘She says she’s bubby – no way, I want someone intelligent.)

So, how can you navigate that minefield and write an online dating profile that will attract matches online? 

One online service PenMyProfile.com does just that. With an expert team of writers who either edit something you’ve already written, or write something from scratch after a friendly consultation, they spend their days tip-toeing through words and their meaning.
In fact, as part of their consultation they say that they ask words that the customer does and doesn’t like when they are being described. And would you believe it, the same offenders crop up time and time again! 

With that in mind, the team has collected its top five ‘atom bomb’ words to avoid when writing your online dating profile:

1. Big-hearted – an honourable thing to be, but people say that they associate this with a larger body size.

2. Bubbly – comes across as ditzy and lacking in intelligence

3. Banker – a sign of the times, but this is a real turn-off! Say you are ‘in finance’ and win someone over with your personality in a few messages.

4. Back on the market – you may well be dipping your toe back in the dating pool, but it comes across as a little desperate.

5. ‘Safe words’ – anything that you might use to describe your nanna is a no; be different! So that includes ‘Kind’ ‘nice’ ‘friendly’ – you know the score.

And that’s why dating is such a minefield. How can you win someone over when everyone is speaking a different language?!

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