Understanding And Recovering From Rejection


Understanding And Recovering From Rejection
Rejection hurts, but it’s impossible to avoid. Here's what it can teach us.

In one of my last articles, I talked about how I was rejected by a Pastor, and I said that rejection in any form can be a good thing. And it can! We just have to learn how to understand, accept and learn from it.

I will be the first to tell you that rejection hurts, but I will also say that it’s impossible to avoid, especially in the dating world. It is an important part of life that teaches us many things. I always try to look at rejection as an opportunity for self-improvement and a potential opportunity for emotional strengthening.

Below I have listed a little bit of advice when it comes to rejection.

Take Control of your Feelings

Coping with rejection starts with just one thing: honesty. Honesty about your self-worth, honesty with your feelings, and honesty about the situation.

  1. Make a list of the things that you know to be true about you: List your good qualities, positive characteristics, and list what you really want out of life.
  2. Answer the question, “Why did it happen?” When you give yourself the answer, stick to the facts. Look back at the situation and think about what, in the future, you would like to change about your interaction?
  3. Stay positive! Don’t allow yourself to regret, second guess, or be hard on yourself. You can’t change the past, but you can change the future. Don’t put yourself down—this only will cut out hope and the belief we have in ourselves. We need both hope and belief in ourselves to move forward and take another risk.
  4. Assess the situation maturely. Remember, it’s not the end of the world. Keep everything in a rational perspective and stay positive.
  5. Give yourself credit for trying. If you do try again, remind yourself of the chance that you may possibly get rejected again, but don’t allow that to hinder your hope or confidence.
  6. Talk about your rejection with someone who is going to listen and be supportive. It’s reassuring to know that someone understands and it forces you to put your feelings into words. Acknowledging your feelings help you to move beyond painful emotions and make steps into recovery.ualities, positive characteristics, and list what you really want out of life.

Read more of Anonymously Dating in Dallas's rejection insight and advice here. And, be sure to read more at Singles Warehouse, too. 

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