1. Healthy Levels of Self Esteem
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Many people enter into relationships because they want someone to make them feel better about themselves. If they feel wanted, they will feel loved. The problem with this is that if someone’s self-esteem is based on being in a relationship with someone, then if that person leaves their life then they can take their self-esteem with them and this is why it is so important to know your strengths before you start. In addition to this those with healthy self-esteem make better choices when choosing a partner. They avoid spending time with people who will have a detrimental effect on them as they are less needy. However those who have low levels of self-esteem are more likely to put up with poor partners as they don’t believe that they have any other options and they end up with fools rather than cools!
2. Your Own Life Outside of Dating
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Many people venture into the dating world as they are feeling bored and lonely. In fact avoiding boredom and loneliness is a key reason why people stay in relationships that are well past their sell by date. If people venture into the dating world looking to relive their boredom and loneliness then yes they will relieve themselves of this but it may make them more needy. This neediness leads them to ignore warning signs that a relationship won’t work and then end up clinging onto someone who is not a good match for them for too long. Another reason why having your own life is important is that you will have more to bring to conversations. A conversation can be pretty boring if only on eperson has something to contribute. Having your own life also protects you from breakup trauma as the relationship is just one part of your life rather than the whole of your life so it means that the breakup is uncomfortable but not devastating.