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Surviving Your First Couples Confrontation

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You're soooo in love, you could never fight. Right? Wrong! How to handle that first lover's quarrel.

You met. You swept each other off your respective feet. And since then, the going’s been great. And then, all of a sudden… cur-chunk! You hit a speed-bump. There had been warning signs, but you either missed them or chose to ignore them. But you couldn’t avoid it — your first confrontation as a couple.

 

Couples fight, couples disagree, couples butt heads. It’s how it goes, but your first unpleasant encounter is both the most revealing and the most unnerving. It’s often the first chance you have to step outside the head-spinning, blinding joy of falling in love and ask, why am I in this?

So how do you survive that first bump in the road of romance? Here are some thoughts.

 

What Not To Do

1. Bring out the laundry list.

In general, when it’s time to disagree, it’s best to focus on the root cause of the fight, and not bring up every little thing that gets on your nerves. This is especially important when it’s early, because the truth is, you’re still learning what’s a real character or behavioral flaw versus a one-time slip.

2. Abandon ship.

It may feel like you won’t make it through, but jumping off the relationship boat at the first sign of trouble isn’t the answer. Unless the altercation is indicative of a major problem (like, he’s physically abusive or she’s got a wandering eye), it’s worth making amends.

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