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Ladies, Ever Wonder How You Can Improve Your Profile?

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How can you get more people to read your profile. Want to up the quality of men that say hi?

Hi ladies! If you’ve been on an online dating site for a while and have yet to find that special someone or you’ve just joined then this is for you. We’re going to give you the scoop on what works and what doesn’t. We want to show you how to make your profile as attractive as you can to the widest selection of men possible.  That way it’s within your power to choose who you want to date.

Let’s start with your images. Think of your photos as the cover of your autobiography. If a picture is worth a 1000 words then a well-chosen image can open an abundance  of conversation with that special someone. We recommend taking your images outdoors. Morning or evening light makes for some great shots. Regardless of where you take your images make sure you have a friend take them for you.

Your main profile image should be a clear headshot. This image appears in many places on the site like in search results and next to every message you send. Make sure this picture is your best. Often there are only a few seconds to grab a guy’s attention. If he can’t see your face he might pass you by.

In the online dating world one just isn’t enough. In fact, it’s been proven that women with 10 pictures of them receive 8 times as many messages. That means leaving out the photos of you with your twenty girlfriends or the ones with the cats. Instead, choose photos where you are the star. If you already have your full length shot and head shot covered go ahead and add a few more photos of family and friends to show off your social side.

Post images that were taken in the last six months. Online dating really is a tool to facilitate meeting that special someone. With that in mind everything you post on your profile should be up to date and reflect the real and current you.

Don’t use professional photos. Although we may think we look the best in professional shots, in fact, the cute and casual look will bring you the most success online.

Show your best side. Photos with tons of skin and the pouty facial expressions will attract guys that are looking for something casual and will turn away the good guys looking for something special like you. You want to appear cute, approachable and relaxed in your photos. These kinds of qualities will attract the right kind of guys. What about a picture of you playing tennis, running a marathon or riding a bike? Show potential suitors your energetic side.

If you are not the athletic type show off your interests instead.  You want your images to say “Wow, this girl is up to some cool stuff in her free time”.
It’s important to change your profile picture every few weeks especially if you are receiving fewer quality messages. Sometimes the images that we think are the best actually aren’t as appealing to members of the opposite sex.

If a guy thinks you are new to the site he’ll be far more interested to check you out. Try testing out a few images and seeing which one brings you the best result.
Now that your images are taken care of let’s take a look at your profile details.
If you are looking for a relationship don’t be shy to say so. Women who indicate on their profile that they are looking for a relationship are actually 10% more likely to leave the site after finding that special someone. Being upfront and honest will only help you to find the kind of guys who share the same intent as you do.

Users that list more than 10 interests get a 50% increase in messages. Your interests will give potential suitors what you might be up for on a first or even a second date. When you are filling out your interests always be mindful of your audience. The more he thinks you have in common the easier it will be for him to ask you out.

As users are roaming around on Singles Warehouse their going to click on lots of different people. If they don’t send you a message right away they might not be able to find you again. If you like the look of them send them a wink – it will let them know that you are interested.

You may think that your description is the last place that users will look when they are checking you out online but don’t underestimate its importance.  Keep it positive. For example instead of writing “Don’t message me if you don’t have your act together” try “Message me if you are an outgoing and ambitious guy who likes to live life to the fullest”.  A positive outlook in life is one of the most attractive qualities a woman can have, so show it off.

Your profile description should be long enough to tell people about who you are and what you are looking for on Singles Warehouse. If you write about 500 – 600 characters you are 25% more likely to leave the site in a couple.  Keep in mind your profile description is not the place to tell your life story. Leave some things to the imagination so you have something to chat about on your first date.

The first paragraph should be something short and catchy. Avoid talking about your inexperience with online dating sites. This is the profile that starts with “I’ve never done this before”. Sometimes the first things that come to mind aren’t always the best.

The second paragraph should be all about you. Who you are and what do you like to do during your free time. Try not to describe yourself in list format.

The last paragraph should be all about what you are looking for on Be Dating Site. Keep this section as honest but as light hearted as possible. Every woman has an idea of what Mr Perfect is like, but he might come in a different package than you expect.

So, your photos are cute and attractive and your profile tells a story about you. Now it’s time to send that message…

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