Ever fallen for someone hard, when there’s no hope in hell you’ll ever be together? Yup, me too. Hurts like hell doesn’t it?
Unrequited love is loving someone wholeheartedly but getting nothing back. For whatever reason, that someone of your dreams is either unavailable or just not into you.
Yet I found, caught up in a one-sided love in my early twenties, it was very hard to see the fruitlessness of my feelings. Maybe if I had read a post like this one … who knows?
How To Recognize It
It is hard, because although I’m guessing psychologists would tell you that it’s all about a ‘safe’ kind of love; you experience the feelings without actually getting involved. I knew a girl once who seemed to make a habit of falling for guys she couldn’t have a relationship with. But if you ARE experiencing those feelings, they’re damn real at the time and they don’t usually develop without some sort of real connection with the object of your affection.
The Man of My Dreams to me from the age of about 22 to 25 was happily married to the woman of HIS dreams, and yet it took me those three years and the birth of his first child to realize that we were only ever going to be friends.
You may have to figure it out, because nobody who knew me and could see where my affections lay wanted to tell me that this idealized love of mine was never going to happen. I have better friends these days!
Alarms bells are going off somewhere, we just have to listen.