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Signs to determine if he is using you for sex or interested in a relationship.

You’ve been seeing (translation: sleeping with) a guy you think you might really like.  He’s cute, he’s funny, and he has a decent job.  There’s just one problem:  You’re not sure if you’re heading toward a relationship or if he’s using you for sex.

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It’s a well-known fact men can have sex – and even a lot of sex – with a particular woman without wanting anything more.  And just because she’s thinking “serious,” it doesn’t mean he’s not thinking “casual.”  So if you’re wondering if he sees you as “good time only,” the following warning signs will help to clear up any confusion.

He’s using you for sex if…he doesn’t take you on dates.

A man who is interested in more than sex will date you; not just sleep with you.  It will be dinners and movies in public places, not exclusively beers and DVDs at his house.  He’s using you for sex if the majority of your relationship is spent either on the couch or in the bedroom.

He’s using you for sex if…he doesn’t want to get to know you.

A man who is serious about a woman wants to learn everything about her.  He’ll care about what you do for a living, want to meet your family and friends, and pay attention to your likes and dislikes.  In the early stages of dating, he’ll ask questions in an effort to find out who you are.  He’s using you for sex if he isn’t interested in your uniqueness.

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