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Why Your "Number" Doesn't Matter

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Why Your "Number" Doesn't Matter [EXPERT]
What's your number?
What your number of sexual partners says about you ... and what it doesn't say at all.

Recently, I was chatting with my text buddy James, and from what I've gathered, he wants to hook up with me ... and I don't want to hook up with him. Anyway, one night he came right out asked how many people I've slept with. I told him it was none of his business... the cheeky bastard. Still, I was intrigued.

Why did he want to know this personal information? It is because I refuse to sext him and declined his offer to drive all the way from his hometown just to "see me?" Is it because every time he sent me a rude text, I'd reply something dire or decide to not respond at all? I mean, how many times does this have to happen before he gets the message? 5 Health Benefits Of Having Sex

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His Response? "The more guys a girl has slept with, the better my odds she'll sleep with me."

Well, he didn't actually mutter these exact words, but that's what I took from it, and that is exactly what he meant. So basically, he thought that because I wasn't forthcoming with my sexuality, he definitely wouldn't be getting any. And, to be fair, the guy had a point.

I didn't and still don't want to frolic with him between the sheets. But that has nothing to do with how many people I have done the deed with. 4 Steps To Escape Your Sexual Comfort Zone

At first, I said it was ridiculous. Surely, a guy's chance of getting some have everything to do with the situation, the people involved and the amount of alcohol consumed, right? I mean, a sexually inexperienced person could get mightily drunk, see someone extremely attractive and take him home. Or a more experienced person could get mightily drunk find someone extremely attractive and take him home. 5 Fun Moves To Spice Up Your Sex Life

What is the difference?

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