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Why Your "Number" Doesn't Matter

Why Your "Number" Doesn't Matter [EXPERT]
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What your number of sexual partners says about you ... and what it doesn't say at all.

Recently, I was chatting with my text buddy James, and from what I've gathered, he wants to hook up with me ... and I don't want to hook up with him. Anyway, one night he came right out asked how many people I've slept with. I told him it was none of his business... the cheeky bastard. Still, I was intrigued.

Why did he want to know this personal information? It is because I refuse to sext him and declined his offer to drive all the way from his hometown just to "see me?" Is it because every time he sent me a rude text, I'd reply something dire or decide to not respond at all? I mean, how many times does this have to happen before he gets the message? Stressed? 5 Incredibly Healthy Reasons To Rip His Clothes Off

His Response? "The more guys a girl has slept with, the better my odds she'll sleep with me."

Well, he didn't actually mutter these exact words, but that's what I took from it, and that is exactly what he meant. So basically, he thought that because I wasn't forthcoming with my sexuality, he definitely wouldn't be getting any. And, to be fair, the guy had a point.

I didn't and still don't want to frolic with him between the sheets. But that has nothing to do with how many people I have done the deed with. 4 Steps To Escape Your Sexual Comfort Zone

At first, I said it was ridiculous. Surely, a guy's chance of getting some have everything to do with the situation, the people involved and the amount of alcohol consumed, right? I mean, a sexually inexperienced person could get mightily drunk, see someone extremely attractive and take him home. Or a more experienced person could get mightily drunk find someone extremely attractive and take him home. 5 Fun Moves To Spice Up Your Sex Life

What is the difference?

Read more of Bella's thoughts on the topic here. And be sure to read more from our Singles Warehouse Experts on our blog, too.

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