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Do Your Friends' Opinions Matter?

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About six weeks ago, I met an amazing guy. He’s amazing because he makes me laugh, and I love how he takes care of me, and he is so easy to get along with, and he’s charming, he’s a great kisser, he knows his sports, he’s very intelligent and can talk about anything, and most importantly, he’s very passionate about life and what he does.

 

There are so many great things about him, and it’s only been six weeks. There’s so much more I get to learn about him and he about me.

Awesome, right?

Well, what I’ve noticed in my short span of being in this relationship, is that people have opinions. And they really want to share them with me.  Funny how new relationships have a way of doing that. The intention is always good. The intention is always because they want the best for you, and they want you to be happy. However, sometimes, that isn’t necessarily the experience.

 

People have their own stuff about online dating, or about men, or about new relationships, or about guys who wear denim shorts in cold weather, or opinions about someone who owns his own company, or why he’s never been married, or maybe, he’s really just not that into you, or maybe he lied about why he didn’t call you back.  Everyone has an opinion about everything. If you think hard enough, I’m sure you’ll remember a time when a friend shared with you she’d met someone, and he/she may be excited, but you’re always the first to make sure to let them know they need to tone it down. You don’t know yet, if it’s a thing. “What if it doesn’t work out?”  There are just so many unknowns.

People who have dated think that they know everything there is to know about dating. People who haven’t dated think they know everything there is to know about dating, because they are married, so obviously..they must. Course, I’m not talking about all people. Some people are genuinely happy for you and they really want it to work out. In fact, 90% of the people in your life are rooting for you. They are your champion in the world of relationships and want nothing more than for you to be happy.

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