How can we help someone we are dating deal with loss?
I have been trying my hardest this week to try to think of something interesting I could write about when it comes to dating. But I feel as though I am at a loss for words and everything I have started to write just does not even feel like something I would even want to read about. The reason of why I am at a loss at what to write about is that I am saddened by a loss. One of my favorite residents at my place of work passed away, I knew that one day he would pass away, but that still doesn’t make it easier. This leads me to my topic for this week.
I know this is a difficult subject and one many of us do not want to even think about. Some people are scared about the death talk and even the thought of dying ourselves can scare many people. None of us really know what happens after we pass away. Some of us have our religious beliefs that helps us, some have no beliefs and think when we pass we pass, there is nothing else.
How we can help some one we are dating deal with a loss?
I think the first thing to do is to tell the person you care about that you are there for them during this time. But also do not be too pushy, some people during the loss of someone special to them will want their space, they need to do a little grieving on their own. Over crowding a person who is grieving may have the opposite affect and make you the person they want to run from.
Space and timing is always important. But also, on the other hand, you don’t want to give them so much space that when they do need you, they feel like you weren’t there for them. A “how are you doing message” is always nice or even a “do you need anything?” is also good.
This article was originally published at http://www.singleswarehouse.co.uk/2012/09/dealing-with-a-loss-with-someone-youre-dating/. Reprinted with permission from the author.