The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Of Dating Multiple People

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The Good, The Bad & The Ugly Of Dating Multiple People
Dating can be hard. Dating in multiples can be harder.

Dating multiple people at once might seem trashy to some but soon after my dive into online dating I found myself juggling men. I didn’t intend on becoming a player but it just sort of happened! I went out on multiple coffee dates; followed by a several dinner dates, and the next thing I knew I was the gangster of love! There was a point where I was brazenly dating 3 men simultaneously. However, when discussing this topic on a twitter chat , many of the participants shared a less rosy perspective to dating multiple people at once. Rather than assert my opinion on the subject as divine truth; I thought I could share with you The Good,The Bad and The {potential} Ugly of dating a choir of candidates at the same time!

The Good

Most everybody in the chat agreed that dating multiple people at one time does have its advantages! Ego boost, full social calendar, and honed dating skills all received honorable mentions by the twitter chat participants but the big granddaddy, gold star, chart topper was comparing/contrasting your dates to better grasp what you want or don’t want in a partner. Having a number of dates in a short period definitely streamlines the process of finding MR. OR Mrs. Right by being exposed to a larger number of possibilities. This is not to suggest your comparing specific people but rather overall character traits and when dating multiple people, the cream will eventually rise to the top {Thanks, @Maneaters for that one}.

The Bad

Like wine, cigarettes, and steak…anything delicious and fun can’t be all good for you. Some of the Tweeps on the chat had a more skeptical view of dancing with more than one partner. Dating fatigue, scheduling conflicts, detracting from finding a meaningful relationship, and sending mixed messages to your dates all made the list of pitfalls. However, the men in the chat had very few negatives about dating multiple people at once until I mentioned finances! Suddenly, men rallied to jump aboard the money train! It actually came as no surprise considering our chats participants {dirty, little minds… the lot of us} that the word ‘date’ quickly evolved to mean ‘having sex’; which then of course had the letters “STD” rolling-off everyone’s lips. My thoughts:  If you’re going play, then use safety gear {i.e. condoms}, then does it really matter how your teammates roll or how many you roll with. None the less, all good points! Just because it wasn’t my pitfall doesn’t mean it can’t be hazard for someone else.

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