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Dating Is Hard Work

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There, we admit it - dating is hard work!

You’re reading this on a website for singles so I’m taking a guess that you’re dipping your toes in the pool and having a bash at getting Cupid’s arrows to plant firmly onto you, so as we’re amongst friends, I can speak freely and be really honest with you.

Do we want Liam Hemsworth and Miley Cyrus to break up?

Dating is hard work.

Yep, nobody ever wants to say it, everybody always want to tell you to “take it as it comes” and “go with the flow” because “the right person will come along when you least expect it” but, realistically, when you’re working your way through the world of dating, you’ve heard those clichés before, and the words echo emptily around inside your head as you give your much-practiced and much-used “Yes, I know” smile.

I realised what hard work dating is after I found myself suddenly propelled back into singledom after a 7-year relationship went sour. We’d met when I was 18 and split up when I was 25 so I’d missed out on all those crucial years of flirting and meeting men; I was completely lost and totally confused.

As I’d been out (un)happily shacked up for so long, I didn’t really know what I was letting myself in for when I got back on the dating scene but once I was officially ‘back in the game’ I was left wondering…

Why hasn’t somebody written a rule book?

If there were some sort of guidelines we could all adhere to I’m sure things would be much clearer and if there was a manual available then I definitely think the whole process would be a lot less scary.

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