How To Date Like A PORN STAR (Hear Us Out On This One)

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How To Date Like A PORN STAR
Love, Sex

They may have sex on camera, but at least they're being safe.

We love dirty jokes, bragging to our friends about our sexual exploits, and basking in the glow of our sexual prowess. But when we meet a new partner, most find it easier to open their legs than their lips.

Honest, open discussions about sex between dating singles is still repressed by puritanical norms and adolescent emotions. Good girls don’t talk about it and good boys don’t ask.

Where does that leave sexually active singles? In a state of ignorant bliss.

Sixty-eight percent of singles aren’t concerned about contracting an STD; however, when asked, 45 percent of single respondents didn't regularly use protection during vaginal intercourse, 66 percent didn't regularly use protection during anal intercourse, and 91 percent didn't regularly use protection during oral intercourse.

Although researchers expose the naked truth about singles’ sexual behavior, eligible men and women continue to embrace an erroneous attitude of indestructibility. By refusing to loosen clenched tongues, instead opting to entwine limbs before minds, they limit gratification, cherish false expectations, and jeopardize their health — all in the name of polite conversation.

Screw that! Date like a porn star instead.

Porn stars are no longer random strangers hooked up by some half-baked producer — they network. Adult film stars look for co-stars through various social media sites. They look for matches and a connection online to have a better performance offline.

Even though there are no flowers or candlelight dinners, they do converse a lot. They candidly exchange sexual history, carnal preferences, and STD results, all before they actually meet in the flesh and long before cameras roll. Granted, erotic eye candy, not love, is their sole intention, but it doesn’t mean that sexually active love seekers can’t take a cue from the pro’s playbook.

Sexual history and swapping STD test results may not be appropriate conversation on your first date (unless, of course, you're planning on having sex on your first date), but freeing the cat from your tongue before you go at it like rabbits will reap a more pleasurable and safer sensual experience while creating delicious anticipation.

Singles have to stop thinking that talking about sex is a mood killer. Intimate conversation about sex will stimulate the mind and relax the body. After all, the mind is the biggest sex organ. You know the moment is near and that sex is definitely on the table — now what? Your heart is pounding and your mouth is dry. You want to have the talk, but how?

Get the conversation started by opening up about your sexual history and see how your partner responds. Here are some questions you should consider to safeguard your health and the health of your partner:

  1. Have you ever tested positive for a sexually transmitted disease, including HIV? If so, were you treated?
  2. How many sex partners have you had since your last STD and HIV tests?
  3. If you have been diagnosed with herpes or genital warts, are you having outbreaks? Are you being treated?
  4. Do you have any objection to using a condom? Are you allergic to latex?
  5. Are you on any form of birth control?
  6. What are your sexual preferences?

The answers to these questions can transform your first sexual experience from a risky high wire act to an exhilarating pleasure cruise. Thrills are fun but not when you can fall without a net. So take my advice: don’t let embarrassment prevent you from having incredible, safe sex.

This article was originally published at Singles Warehouse. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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