Want to know how to suck the life out of a woman?
Stop communicating with her. Stop returning her phone calls, or her text messages. Or answering the phone. Just stop talking to her. But don’t tell her why. And then watch her shrivel into someone you don’t recognize.
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If there’s one thing I’ve learned as I get older, it’s that communication is the key to almost everything.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not actually giving you permission to do this. It’s ridiculous that these things even happen. I was talking to a friend of mine on the weekend and he said that he’s done that, more than once. While he’s still dating someone, he just stops communicating. Why do that? Why not just end things? Doesn’t that make more sense? Doesn’t that make things easier?
It’s not as easy for women to stop communicating. We are communicators, we come by that naturally. Sometimes, our communication skills are used for good, and sometimes for evil. So it’s a crap shoot I suppose, but talk to us. Life is so much easier that way.
Whatever you do, don’t just stop communicating. It’s far less heartbreaking if you just tell us you’re not interested, or you’ve met someone else, or you can’t do this anymore, or even tell us you don’t like us anymore. We can handle that. What we can’t handle is silence. It’s painful. It keeps us up at night. It raises our blood pressure, and our stress level.
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And it’s unkind. And disrespectful.