Commitment-phobic has long been a term used to describe people who have a fear of commitment. Generally speaking, people who fell into this category were primarily men. Today, however, this isn't the case. Commitment phobia is not just for men anymore.
Through some sort of Twilight Zone type alteration, men and women seem to have reversed gender roles when it comes to the fear of commitment. More and more men I come in contact with seem to be so ready to take the next step, past casual dating and jump right into relationship status. Yet the more I talk to my single female friends about this, the more I hear how they just want to be serial daters, casually date a couple people or be FWB (Friends with Benefits). What has caused the pendulum to swing and alter reality as we once knew it?
Maybe one way to answer that question is to look at recent changes to the world of dating. With the mainstream acceptance of online dating, speed dating and singles events, women now have a plethora of ways to meet single men. With the use of technology to meet men, women are given total control. Why?
Well, because women have it pretty easy when it comes to online dating. We snap a few pictures, throw up a profile and wait for the fish … um … I mean men, to take the bait. Typically men contact women first, placing the ball in her court to either respond or delete said message while the man sits and waits.
From what the men I've met through online dating have told me, they probably get one or two messages a day. Of the women I know, myself included, we probably get one to two messages per hour! Perhaps those shifts in control combined with the array of options have helped to cause the shift in commitment phobia between genders.
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