Casual Sex: Sealed With a K.I.S.S.


Casual Sex: Sealed With a K.I.S.S.
One woman's rules for pursuing casual sex.

Guy number two is not going to be a problem…or so I think. He’s not exactly single but it’s never stopped him before. We have a long history but in the past I’d stayed distant because I was in “I want a real relationship” mode. Well, that mode is gone and my naughty side is emerging, so I let him know I’m game for some fun. He knows I want nothing at all from him except some physical company. There is no fear of emotion getting in the way. He doesn’t have the freedom to get emotionally involved with me so we are on equal footing there.

Sounds simple, right?

Nope, of course it isn’t. This one decides that cheating on his woman is wrong if it is planned. He can however just say he wants to stop by to say hello and then ravage me. That is okay because the intention wasn’t sex; it was spontaneous. WHAT THE HELL!? How does that make any sense? The end result is the same, just the motivation is different, and even that isn’t really. He knows full well what happens when we get together so all it does is make it easier for him to sleep at night. Ugh.

Are you shaking your head? I am. Aren’t men always saying that women over think things, we complicate things, we let our emotions and our analytical nonsense get in the way? Well, guys, it isn’t a trait reserved to women. You cannot look at these two situations and tell me that “men know how to separate sex from emotions” or “women complicate everything.” 

All of this has taught me one very important lesson. I don’t give a crap what men say; I think they secretly love when we get all sappy and emotional on them. They want us to fall for them, care for them, so they can say, “Sorry, baby, I told you I can’t be who you need. I’m no good for you.” Then they get to walk away and think they are the man. If you hand them a strong woman who knows what she wants and gets it they have no idea how to handle it.

Shhh, just go with it.

Guys, if a hot woman you desire comes up to you and says, “I just want a physical relationship” just roll with it. Trust me, don’t over think it; just enjoy it. If you don’t like how it feels to be called on late at night, on short notice, or without any emotional connection…well then your take away lesson should be to realize how you probably make women feel most of the time. Just saying.


Want to read more from According to Jewels? Follow her on Facebook: or at Singles Warehouse:

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Singles Warehouse


The HOTTEST Singles Online Dating Site in the UK and USA. Free to sign up and browse the gorgeous variety of singles interested in meeting YOU, too.

Singles Warehouse is also home to some of the most honest, provocative, and insightful dating/relationship/sex writers in the world...and their a sexy little bunch, too! Check out the SWEXPERTS blog for the latest and greatest.

Twitter: @SingleWarehouse and @SWEXPERTS


Being single can be fun, but a little company never hurt, too. So, join today, engage with our writers, and be sure to follow us online.

Location: London, LND, United Kingdom
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support
Other Articles/News by Singles Warehouse:

Tinder: Is It Time To Move On?


I used to host speed dating events. On any given night, forty to fifty people would show up hoping to meet someone amazing within the span of a four-minute date. It was kind of a strange idea at first— meeting twenty guys in one evening to see if anyone had potential. But it was efficient. I sifted through more and more guys each week who ... Read more

To Hook Up or Not Hook Up


With more and more sites adding to the No Strings Attached culture it's easy to understand why hook up's are becoming more and more common. No matter what your moral feelings are it's happening. People just love sex. However when hooking up there are a few things you need to remember— Hook Up's Don't Always Equal Groundbreaking ... Read more

4 Smart Single Parent Dating Tips


It is quite understandable for single parents to be nervous about re-entering the dating scene but confidence is the key. We've gathered 4 common questions single parents have, and answered them with our 4 best Single Parent Dating tips in a bid to raise your confidence level.   1. I have a kid. Where do I go to meet people? By now you have ... Read more

See More

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.