Guy number two is not going to be a problem…or so I think. He’s not exactly single but it’s never stopped him before. We have a long history but in the past I’d stayed distant because I was in “I want a real relationship” mode. Well, that mode is gone and my naughty side is emerging, so I let him know I’m game for some fun. He knows I want nothing at all from him except some physical company. There is no fear of emotion getting in the way. He doesn’t have the freedom to get emotionally involved with me so we are on equal footing there.
Sounds simple, right?
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Nope, of course it isn’t. This one decides that cheating on his woman is wrong if it is planned. He can however just say he wants to stop by to say hello and then ravage me. That is okay because the intention wasn’t sex; it was spontaneous. WHAT THE HELL!? How does that make any sense? The end result is the same, just the motivation is different, and even that isn’t really. He knows full well what happens when we get together so all it does is make it easier for him to sleep at night. Ugh.
Are you shaking your head? I am. Aren’t men always saying that women over think things, we complicate things, we let our emotions and our analytical nonsense get in the way? Well, guys, it isn’t a trait reserved to women. You cannot look at these two situations and tell me that “men know how to separate sex from emotions” or “women complicate everything.”
All of this has taught me one very important lesson. I don’t give a crap what men say; I think they secretly love when we get all sappy and emotional on them. They want us to fall for them, care for them, so they can say, “Sorry, baby, I told you I can’t be who you need. I’m no good for you.” Then they get to walk away and think they are the man. If you hand them a strong woman who knows what she wants and gets it they have no idea how to handle it.
Shhh, just go with it.
Guys, if a hot woman you desire comes up to you and says, “I just want a physical relationship” just roll with it. Trust me, don’t over think it; just enjoy it. If you don’t like how it feels to be called on late at night, on short notice, or without any emotional connection…well then your take away lesson should be to realize how you probably make women feel most of the time. Just saying.
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