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Is Being Yourself Sometimes Too Much?

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Should we tone down our personalities, just to find a partner?

I've been told I'm the "life of the party." I have a great "zest for life" and I'm "soooo funny."  Sounds awesome, right?  Sure, they are all great compliments… but when have you ever heard a man say his ideal woman was one that dances the hardest, sings the loudest at karaoke, or takes over group conversation with her inappropriate jokes and embellished storytelling? Yeah. Just the woman a man is looking for… someone just like him. The point is, being the life of the party often doesn't do you much good when it comes to finding true love.  You might get laid, but seriously considering dating a female comedian often isn't an option for men. In other words, being myself sometimes sucks. I can't help but wonder… is being yourself sometimes too much?

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What Men Are Really Looking For In A Woman

I've asked many men what exactly they are looking for in a woman. Here are some of their top answers (not including physical traits):

"Someone who can carry a conversation."

"Someone who can make me laugh."

"Someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously."

"Good morals and values."

"Someone who is serious about their career."

So, basically I'm the perfect candidate? Alas, I'm not. Men are looking for their best friend, just like women, right? The problem is that I end up actually being their best friend… and not their soul mate. Not too many men want to date themselves, I guess. I know about sports, so sue me. I can keep up with sarcastic banter and I can keep up with the same amounts of beer as you can. Does this make me a terrible candidate for a wife? Continue reading here, and check out our blog for more great articles.

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