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To be Clear, This is a Date

Tips on how to make that attractive female friend into a girlfriend.

Fellas, I am going to save you a lot of time and a lot of headache.  When you are interested in getting to know a woman better, don’t be wishy-washy about it.  If you want to ask her out on a date, then do it!  Be clear about your intentions from the start.  Trust me, she already knows what you want, so there is no need for obfuscation here.   And this is where most men screw it up, right at the beginning.

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If, for some reason, you are tentative about asking a woman out, being indecisive will definitely not make it easy on you.  When you make a half-assed attempt, she will reject you quickly and painfully, leaving you with plenty of free time to wonder what the Hell happened.  So be straight forward, no games.  Just ask her out for coffee, to your place for dinner, or to go skydiving, whatever.  But don’t be ambiguous about it, let her know what you expect.  Don’t leave any doubt in her mind, or you are just wasting each other’s time.  If she seems nebulous as to your design, you may have to be blunt and say…

To Be Clear, This Is A Date.

She needs to know that you are interested in her in THAT way.  There are many times, especially in relationship-heavy show business, where you will meet with a gorgeous woman you are interested in and you think you have been clear about your aims, only to find that she wants to discuss your business marketing techniques or to “pick your brain”.  When she walks into your place with pen in hand, ready to take copious notes, and finds candles, soft music, and wine waiting for her, that is, in a word, awkward.  It’s not her fault, it’s yours.  You were not solid with your invite, so she was unsure as to exactly what you expected.  She went to the “friendzone” or business associate default setting and now you are pals.  And, yes, that sucks.  So, making your intentions known is a winner from the very start.

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