I had somewhat of an epiphany on the subject of love in my thirties, understood more of what a relationship meant and found that I very much wanted to settle down at last and give a proper, grown up relationship a go.
I took a step back, looked at all my male friends and reconsidered them as more than friends. I dated, I even tried a Lonely Hearts scheme in the local newspapers and if you’ve read my SW Interview, then you know how badly that panned out.
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On a friend’s recommendation, I went onto an online dating site and filled in my profile. Who knew at the time where that would lead, but I’d like to pass on some of the experiences I had and all that I learnt because for me it turned out to be the best thing I have ever done.
1. Be Brave
Thinking about online dating, but worried it carries a stigma? Worried that everybody on the site will be desperate, sad and lonely? People will think that you are?
Ignore the negative views, from my experience they were all wrong. Online dating should really have another name, perhaps ‘Online Meeting’ because, in reality, that’s what it is. To go on a date with somebody will always be that, a face-to-face date. Online dating sites simply give you the tools to vet, meet, get to know people before you get to the dating stage. How cool!
2. The Online Daters
It’s not just the home sad and desperate types. I don’t know who it was who first came up with that opinion, but they obviously never used any dating Sites. All types of people go online. Like anywhere else in life, you’ll come across all kinds of people on a dating site. Some bad, but a lot more who are good.
So be brave, go for it and don’t look back. What’s the worst that can happen? You’ll meet some new people, you may fall in love. What’s to lose!?
3. Honest Profiling
Okay, so you’ve decided to do it (yay!) and you’re sat at your computer screen, maybe alone. Maybe with a good mate and a bottle of wine for courage, ready to fill out your profile.
BE HONEST!! And this doesn’t just apply to being honest about your bad habits and looks. Any lies will just backfire the minute you meet up with someone, so I tried to be brutally honest about everything. Turns out there are men out there who like outspoken women who smoke … who knew?! Think on, be honest about who you are and what you’re looking for too. To be successful at finding love online, you are looking for someone who wants someone like YOU! They won’t find you if you’re busily pretending to be someone else.
Be honest with your picture too and make sure it matches what you’re looking for. If all you’re after is sex, sexy pic! But if you’re looking for something more meaningful and you sex up your image too much you might give someone the wrong impression.
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Choose a picture you love, make it a smiley one but don’t try and create a new image or a new you, BE you.