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8 Tips to Improve Your Sexual Technique


This article is about how to develop the best sexual technique, not to teach you random moves to try. The fact is that there is no such thing as universally great technique that can be pre-planned.

The best sexual technique naturally arises in the moment when you're orgasmically on.

The key to improve your sexual technique is not memorizing moves, but from doing the work to be in orgasm--a state of heightened sensation. Once in that state, the best sex moves will come to you intuitively.

Here are eight ways to change your sex game so that every technique you do is a masterful play.

1. Notice the Sensation that is

Intuition is a subset of feeling. Orgasm starts with what's already there. Notice the sensations in your body. Focus on the points of contact between you and your partner, whether via genitals or random skin. Every body part can be orgasmic if you bring awareness to it.

2. Slooooow Down

If you move too fast you don't give the feeling of orgasm to catch up. There's nowhere to get to and nothing you have to do. Slow down enough so that the sensation can lead you.

3. Follow What Feels Good To You

Following sensation means approaching physical touch with curiosity. What feels good to you? Every masterful sexual technique was created from people trying different things that felt good.

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