In an effort to embrace the positive single girl deep inside, I thought I'd actually attempt to be positive. I know, I surprise myself sometimes too.
Being single is not anything more than being an attractive, intelligent, funny woman who has yet to find an attractive, intelligent, funny man who is worthy of taking you off the market.
Single Girl Nugget #1
Learning to love your own company is invaluable. Being single is not the equivalent of a time out and it doesn't earn a certain number of daily lashings. In other words, stop punishing yourself. Be an unconditional friend to yourself! Novel idea, huh? Why not treat yourself as you treat your best friend instead. Cut yourself some slack girl!
Single Girl Nugget #2
People will impose their ideas about relationships upon you, try to ignore them. The toughest critics of you (after yourself) are going to be other people. Their criticisms will range from asking why you aren't dating to attempts of forcing a single man they know upon you. Which I wouldn't mind depending on how appealing said man is on paper, because attraction and chemistry either happens or it doesn't. The best thing to do here is put their asses on mute and embrace all the perks singledom affords you.
Single Girl Nugget #3
It's out of your control. When, where and how you meet Mr. Right is not anything you have control over! I wouldn't mind peeking into a magic 8 ball and seeing my future-self happily coupled, but I suppose that takes the fun out of it. Did you know one of my 2014 dating goals is to make dating fun? The sooner you accept it's going to happen rather than when it happens, the sooner you can focus on enjoying life and having fun!
Single Girl Nugget #4
You're going to go through phases. You're going to go from being gung-ho about dating and regularly scrolling through potential suitors to the complete opposite. One day you're going to be sick of it all, aka experience dating fatigue. The light at the end of the tunnel is the day you just accept it, enjoy your hiatus from dating and treat yourself really, really good. Just like that you'll meet a cool guy and the cycle will start all over again! Whatever phase you're going through, own it.
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