4 Secrets to Feeling Sexy For A First Date


4 Secrets to Feeling Sexy For A First Date

Let’s admit it. For as exciting and fun as first dates can be, when it comes down to it, it’s hard not to feel nervous and a bit self-conscience before one. With so many unknowns lying ahead (what will we talk about? will he/she be into me? will I be into him/her?), your levels of self-confidence can easily take a nose dive if you’re not careful. This is a problem because, without a doubt, the single most attractive thing in a potential partner is some well-placed confidence.

Lucky for you, dear readers, I’ve been on more than my fair share of first dates (the good and the bad) and am happy to share my top four ways to feel sexy and confident before heading out on your next first date. And, yes, these tips apply to both men and women. So, listen up…and feel free to share your own tips, too.

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1. Wear Something That You Feel Good In

Far too frequently, people feel the need to squeeze themselves in to something new and overtly sexy for a first date. Women are the worst offenders, buying new “first date” heels and dresses that stick out their tits and accentuate their ass. And, while that may be good to feel sexy…you may not feel like YOU. Now is NOT the best time to test out how well you walk in 5-inch stilettos (though strut your stuff if you can!) or try on a new “avatar” via drastic wardrobe adjustments. It is important that you still look and feel like your authentic self in your first date outfit.

Also, unless you are 100% certain about what you are doing and where, it is best to dress versatile. I can personally attest to the importance of this rule after dressing in brand new skinny jeans and sky-high heeled boots for a first date that ended up being at his family farm to milk cows. I was immensely uncomfortable, and I’m sure my being so overdressed put him off, too.

2. Be Sure To Wear Something SEXY Underneath

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I always find that I instantly feel foxier when wearing some new lingerie or other sexy piece of clothing. For some, red “power panties” do the trick. For others, it’s their favorite “push them up to there” cleavage-enhancing bra. Or, maybe you have a lucky pair of boxers that always put a little pep in your step. Whatever your flavor of choice, don’t be afraid to spice it up under your clothing. Because, while your exterior clothing should be more versatile and familiar, your undergarments should scream “I’m sexy…and I Know It.” Plus, should things take a frisky turn, you always know you’re prepared.

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