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Commit And You Shall Receive — What A Successful Marriage Looks Like


What does it take to have a successful marriage?

While it may appear obvious, the couples that make it are those that are committed to making their marriage work. Those that are not committed to their marriage don't usually make it.

When you make the decision to commit, you've decided to put in the hard work that is needed to save your marriage.

When you waver and think about what it would be like if you married someone else or how you wish your life would be different, you're usually not able to generate enough momentum to push forward and repair the relationship.

Does this mean you’re doomed to stay in an unhappy marriage? Is “till death do us part” meant to be taken literally? Yes and No.

How to ensure you’ll be one of the lucky ones, the Successful Marriage Tips.

1. Be aware of the consequences divorce can have on your children and your finances

Many of the common causes for divorce are still not necessarily reason to end your marriage. Even an affair is repair-able, if you're committed to fixing your relationship no matter what.

2. Realize that it takes two to tango and that finding someone better is not necessarily a cure-all, as you will likely have issues in future relationships

3. Finally, recognize how the particular challenges of your marriage are growth opportunities for you and your spouse, and that there are ways for you to transform this conflict into connection

This, however, does not apply to abusive relationships.

The true test of commitment to your marriage is when a stressful situation comes up and you’re both tested.

We want you to be able to withstand the stress and be one of the lucky ones, happy and together forever.

Contact us if you’d like your marriage to be a successful one.

With best wishes for your relationship success,

Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.


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