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3 Romantic Ways To Bring Love BACK Into Your Marriage

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Don't fall out of love!

When you feel like you’re falling out of love, you need to take action!

Not to consider divorce, since that will work against you later on, but to actually create love. Our love advice may seem counter-intuitive, but it works.

Infuse your relationship with loving behaviors that promote positive energy, which help lighten things and add fun.

Here’s what you need to do if you think you’re falling out of love with your spouse:

1. Express Your Appreciation 

The best way to decrease resentment and reinforce positive behavior is to express your appreciation. When we share what we like about our spouse, we begin to focus on what's right in the relationship, and our partner feels that his or her efforts are valued.

It's more than a simple thank you. Sit down with your spouse, look into his or her eyes, say what you appreciate about him or her and why it means so much to you. By spending a few minutes per day on this exercise, you'll break through a lot of negativity.

2. Plan Date Night 

Even if you’ve been married for 40 years, you still need to date your spouse. Make a set time once a week where you go out together and enjoy each other’s company. Whether it means going for dinner or a walk in the park, take this time to enjoy face-to-face connection. By making a fixed appointment, you will show each other that the marriage is a priority.

3. Perform Caring Behaviors 

Love is a verb. We demonstrate care for a spouse when we perform loving behaviors. Every individual is different, so it's important to find out what types of behaviors make your spouse feel cared for. Ask him or her to write a list of behaviors that he or she particularly appreciates, and try to do one caring behavior per day. When we act lovingly, we not only stimulate our own love for our spouse, we awaken their love for us as well. It’s a win-win for everyone involved!


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