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5 Lessons Taylor Swift Taught Me About Friendship & Girl Power

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These friends won't leave teardrops on your guitar.

We've seen Taylor Swift have her heart broken over and over again through out the years.

From her pain and heartache, she transmuted that into hit after hit, making millions of dollars with concerts, perfume endorsements, music videos, and gaining popularity as the girl who could be your best friend.

Hair stylist, music video directors, super models and highly paid actresses may not be in our entourage; but the lessons she has learned along her journey into adulthood can be summed up into five wise lessons to follow.

1. Friends are like the family members that we get to choose

The people that we turn to when we have a bad day. Whether it’s a bad breakup, a tremendous argument with a family member, or the need to vent about our horrible boss; your friends are your backbone.

On the flip side of the coin, we can still be ourselves, and be as silly, loud, moody, or even have that embarrassing night with that will forever be told to others as the funniest thing that ever happened to us. They forgive us, and accept us for who we truly are.

2. Pain can be turned into productivity

You lost your job, your significant other dumped you, or a loved one passed away. Pain is inevitable in life, but how we handle it can bring us a better sense of peace. We can take these tragedies and make them into triumphs.

  • Create your own company, and research ,or study other successful entrepreneurs. Follow in footsteps of some of the greatest minds in the business world by taking free webinars found on Facebook, run to your local library for business books. Learn to earn and say goodbye to taking orders from others.
  • Start a charity or volunteer in your deceased love ones honor. This will bring you a sense of keeping their memory alive and at the same time remaining very busy.
  • Throw yourself into an exercise program and get that REVENGE body, or write that great novel you always wanted to pen. Just like Taylor Swift, be sure to write about your pain and inspire others to get past a difficult time in their lives.

3. Positive adventures can distract you from your downfalls:

Drag yourself out of bed if you must, and learn a new hobby, craft, or start a new chapter in your  life with courses toward a new career. Online classes do not count if you are not interacting with  other people. So, be sure to look around, and breakout of your usual routine.

Remember, that new restaurant, or vacation you wanted to go to? If you have the funds then don’t hesitate to try a new change of scenery. Taylor would also recommend you take plenty of selfies on your new adventures with your new friends.

4. You are who you associate with:

Haven’t you ever noticed that famous people associate with other famous people, and the rich with the other rich? The same goes for people who are on a sports team, or share a common interest. So, if you want a successful career, love life, or anything else that you want to attain, seek who you want to become, not who you don’t want to become.

If the thought of this absolutely terrifies you, practice seeking out mentors through, and Read plenty of books on overcoming your insecurities.

5. Be happy for others accomplishments:

If you are the catty type who loves to gossip about how everyone else is so horrible, or how your life just stinks, then its fair to say that you would bash a friend or relative when they are doing well for themselves.

Ideally, the way to keep your worthwhile friends ( and Yes, please do drop them if they can not reciprocate being a good and loyal friend) is by being a very supportive friend. Take out that friend who just got a promotion to lunch or dinner, give her a great congratulatory hug, along with a sweet little gift if you feel the need to. Better yet, throw your friend a birthday party, shower, graduation celebration,or any other special occasion along with your squad.

Doing amazing things for each other, and being genuinely supportive lets them know that you truly are appreciative, and there for them through the good and bad. Remember, Taylor Swifts girl squad starred in her “Bad Blood” video and half of the clique came with her to the 2015 MTV Music Awards. If that isn’t love and support, then I don’t know what is. 

This article was originally published at Facebook and otherwebsites. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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