If the core connection is there and your drive is down, I suggest examining it from a few different angles:
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2. Turn inside to see if you're feeling connected to yourself. When you feel alive and connected to yourself you will bring this to your partner.
3. Ask yourself if you're feeling connected to your partner. Great sex arises from a great emotional connection, so if your libido dropped you may want to try to reconnect emotionally first and see if the sparks naturally alight from there.
If you're struggling with engagement anxiety and feeling scared about taking the next step in terms of your level of commitment, the first thing to shut down is your sex drive. The more you understand the connection between sex and emotions the less you'll think that there's something wrong with you or your relationship when your libido dips.
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