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When you think about the Yuletide holidays and the big New Year's Eve festivities the last thing that is on your mind is the need to part ways with your current partner. In fact, most people tend to choose to break up before December or wait until into the New Year before saying adios to the relationship. While this may seem like a good idea, there are some situations where breaking up over the holidays is a matter of personal importance and mental well being.
Unfortunately the holiday season, regardless of what specific plans you have, often include a lot of drinking, going out and doing "couple stuff". This, combined with an already strained relationship, can be a recipe for disaster. Constant demands to be together, appearing madly in love, and handing the relationship without any problems can trigger a wide range of different obnoxious or dramatic confrontations.
Generally, if you know the relationship is going nowhere and you think the other person may have the same feelings talking it out is often the best option. You can always plan to attend holiday events together and then make the break up public after the New Year. For many couples this is a very workable solution. However, if the other person is controlling, verbally abusive or is adamant that the relationship is going to last forever then breaking up over the holidays may also provide you with opportunities to get the support you need.
Breaking up over the holidays in this type of situation can: