With Valentine’s Day here, is your love life a bit flat? Do you spend more time in your sweats than you do in sexy lingerie? Are your feet more at home in those old Pink fuzzy slippers than they are in sexy pumps? Are you stressed because if you don’t plan for romance, none will happen at all? Don't worry because you are not alone!
According to Pamela Haag, who has written a rather shocking book on modern marriage called Marriage Confidential, there is a semi-happy ambivalence lurking just below the surface of many of today’s marriages. Haag’s research reveals that even though couples may rarely fight and may even maintain a sincere affection for each other, one or both may harbor a sobering sense that something important is missing.
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If your partner feels more like a roommate than a lover, is it too late for you? Even if you are in what Haag calls a “Tom Sawyer” marriage where you are the career focused go-getter and your partner is retired, relaxed and disconnected from your efforts, I believe that you can recharge your relationship with the right tools. 6 Reasons To Put Love Before Your Career
The first step is to realize that there are thousands of women in exactly the same boat. A giant wave of resentment and loneliness is sweeping over the country and it is more important than ever that you take responsibility for your own happiness. The second step is to do a "masculinity audit". A what? Yes, a "masculinity audit" and I am not talking about tabulating all the things your man is doing in his masculine cluelessness that is causing you distress.
I am actually talking about your masculinity. That’s right, YOU! Especially today when women are ranking at the top of the success ladder more than ever, natural feminine energy is being shoved into the background every day. Aside from that, many women are embarrassed by their feminine softness and vulnerability in the boardroom. This is exactly why I am a crusader for empowering women to take control of their lives, their happiness and their joy. Do You Have Masculine Energy?
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I have worked with hundreds of women whose lives have been transformed by reconnecting to their true nature, what I call their "sparkle". Deep in the heart of every woman, there is an enchanting being waiting to be set free. Like a genie in a bottle, this radiant and pulsing YOU is waiting for you to pop the cork. So what are you waiting for?
Back to the "masculinity audit." If the idea of being too masculine is new to you, don’t let that shake you. Awareness is the first part of change and this first step is crucial to you finding your missing passion and joy. Now, rank the following characteristics on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being “not me” and 10 being “totally me.” If you are ranking toward 10 on these aspects of your personality, your masculine side is highly toned and fit.