How To Get Out Of A Rut

You may think you have the best poker face in town but your vibes speak volumes. Not only can you not hide your inner thoughts, they are magnetically attracting an equivalent match and bringing you more of what you don't want. Yikes!

Really, what's the point of stewing? You will carry this energy into your next event of the day, or worse yet, to bed with you. If you do not ditch this energy, you'll wake up with it and start your day behind the eight ball and have another crappy day.

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On the other hand, if you choose to create a new reality you will empower yourself and your life. One of my clients, Janine, did a brilliant job of this. She and her husband of 30-plus years were having a lot of marital problems. They had been living like roommates for several months and nowhere near as close as she desired. She had just enrolled in a course with me and decided to listen to one of the bonus calls with a sensuality expert who gave lots of tips on how to seduce your man without saying a word.

One night she decided to try out a suggested seductive pose along with other flirty techniques she learned. When she heard her husband drive up she got into a curvy, sexy pose but he barely noticed her. She didn't take it personally because she remembered the expert saying men need a woman to look at them at least four times before they "get it."

God love her, she did not give up! Nor did she allow her husband's non-responsiveness to shut her down. Instead, she patiently continued to pose every chance she got and noticed something was starting to change inside of her — she started to feel good about herself and continued for her own pleasure.

Low and behold her husband suddenly locked eyes with her; they flirted and kissed and had the most passionate night she could remember in ages! She was giddy with excitement and shared that she felt sensuous, feminine and fabulous.

It's no coincidence that he noticed and wanted her exactly when she got to this point — she was dwelling in the sweet spot of her magnificence without any external need of attention.

That's the secret we learn: When we are in right relationship with ourselves and take responsibility to create a reality that makes us happy all good things flow to and from us.

It's a valuable lesson for anyone wishing to get unstuck. Whenever you are in a situation that doesn't make you happy, remind yourself that choices are always available to you. Make a conscious decision to choose that which will empower you and make you most happy.

Just a slight shift in your perspective can bring a 180 degree change in your reality. It may also open a door to learn something new about yourself and most certainly the realization that you have the power to create your reality.

The choice is always yours; either stay in your mood and stew like a miserable martyr, or create a new reality like the sparkling soul you are. Who will you choose to be?

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