Once upon a time, you couldn't keep your hands off each other. You strolled hand in hand stealing kisses in shadowy places. He snuggled close to hold you on the couch. He planned dates, surprised you with gifts and texted you with naughty innuendos.
In those days, love was so easy. Chemistry ruled the day, and starry eyed, you dreamed of the future you were sure was destined for you as a couple.
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Fast forward a few years.
Valentine's day is here, and now that the original heat, fire, and chemistry are long ago forgotten, you and your sweetheart have settled into life.
If you're feeling like the bodice ripping romance (as my friend Lauren Frances calls it) has left your relationship, you are not alone. Researchers say that within a short two to four years, the chemistry between a couple begins to wear off. So even if it's normal for long-term couples to lose "the spark" over time, how can they keep the romance alive?
I had fun making the video above where Melanie Gorman, Senior VP of Experts, asked me and my fellow YourTango Experts Sheila Paxton, Barbara Schiffman, and Charles Orlando to explain how to make date night zesty and exciting again.
Want to find out what's necessary to keep it alive and fresh? Check out the video above!
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If you find you're struggling to keep the romance alive, I can help. Contact me to schedule a complimentary Romance Strategy Session using this link.
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