How to Add Va-voom to your V-day! (EXPERT)

How to Add Va-voom to your V-day! (EXPERT)

How to Add Va-voom to your V-day! (EXPERT)

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If you're craving more romance and excitement in your relationship, read these tips!

Do you wish your Valentine’s Day was a bit… more?

Are you craving more excitement, romance and passion in your relationship?

If you’re feeling underwhelmed by your romantic life (especially at this time of year) you aren’t alone.

Valentine’s Day is a holiday that puts a big spotlight on your love life. It can be daunting to realize that the once hot passion in your romance has cooled to a semi-happy ambivalence.

According to Pamela Haag, who has written a rather shocking book on modern marriage called Marriage Confidential, there is an uncertainty lurking just below the surface of many of today’s marriages. Haag’s research reveals that even though couples may rarely fight and may even maintain a sincere affection for each other, one or both may harbor a sobering sense that something important is missing.

If your partner feels more like a roommate than a lover, is it too late for you? Even if you are in what Haag calls a “Tom Sawyer” marriage where you are the career focused go-getter and your partner is retired, relaxed and disconnected from your efforts, I believe that you can recharge your relationship with the right tools.

The first step is to realize that there are thousands of women in exactly the same boat. A giant wave of resentment and loneliness is sweeping over the country and it is more important than ever that you take responsibility for your own happiness.

The second step is to do a “femininity audit.” A what? Yes, femininity audit.

Here’s why…

Today women are ranking at the top of the success ladder more than ever. We’re taking charge in and out of the office. This means natural feminine energy is being shoved into the background every day. Aside from that, many women are embarrassed by their feminine softness and vulnerability in the boardroom.

This is exactly why I am a crusader for empowering women to embrace their feminine energy to take control of their lives, their happiness and their joy.

I have worked with hundreds of women whose lives have been transformed by reconnecting to their true nature, what I call their “sparkle”. Deep in the heart of every woman, there is an enchanting being waiting to be set free. Like a genie in a bottle, this radiant and vivacious YOU is waiting for you to pop the cork.

So what are you waiting for?

Only you can make a choice to embrace your radiant self and the life she deserves.

Back to the ”femininity audit.” Inside of each person is both masculine and feminine energy. When your feminine energy is low you start to experience break down. You might feel exhausted, stressed, and like your love life dying on the vine.

If the idea of being too masculine is new to you, don’t let that shake you. Awareness is the first part of transformation. This first step is crucial to you finding your missing passion and joy.

Here’s the femininity audit:

Rank the following characteristics on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being “not me” and 10 being “totally me.” If you are ranking toward 10 on these aspects of your personality, your masculine side is highly toned and fit. 

  • Competitive
  • Ambitious
  • Serious
  • Workaholic
  • Controlling
  • Left Brained
  • Strong
  • Confident

Now, rank these feminine characteristics in the same way. If these aspects are ranking under 5, you definitely need to amp up your femininity. You will find that your relationship will improve as you find balance with these two sides of yourself.

  •  Girly
  •  Soft
  •  Flowing
  •  Creative
  •  Vulnerable
  •  Right Brained
  •  Relational
  •  Flexible

Are you feeling ready to put some va-voom in your V-day as well as your life by connecting more deeply with your feminine side and experiencing more passion and joy? Great! Here is an action step you can do right now! Contact me to schedule a complimentary Feminine Power & Radiance Strategy session.

Together we’ll come up with a plan to reduce your stress and disappointment and unleash your feminine power.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.
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