Like the pitcher, you eventually have nothing left to offer. You’ve squeezed yourself dry. Yet, you continue to try to give. However, now what you are able to "serve up" becomes flat — it doesn't taste sweet anymore. Even though you know you are running on empty you push yourself to pour your pitcher anyway. And those who you serve are aware — often unconsciously — that what you're providing isn't as good as it once was. Maybe what you now offer is laced with bitterness, resentment, frustration and even anger.
So, what can you do to refill your pitcher — to renew yourself? First, it's vital that you understand a key concept: the most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one you have with yourself! If that relationship is not rock solid, and full of love for yourself, you can lose your way—even lose your sense of Self—and feel isolated, separate and disconnected from everyone and everything. Alternatively, the more you nurture your relationship with yourself, the more you are ready and able to have relationships with others and give to them — whether that's a spouse, partner, friends or family members.
How can you renew and nurture your relationship with you? At the core must be the belief that you are valuable, that you deserve to be cared for and that you're worth it. So, the first step is to love yourself. You must be able to see that you are worthy of love and that the most important love you’ll ever receive is the love and acceptance you give yourself. It starts with you. How To Respect Yourself & Your Ex
Once you acknowledge that you are important and worthy of love and self-care, you can take time to appreciate who you are and spend time refilling your pitcher. There are many ways to do this. To begin with, plan to give yourself some undivided attention. Focus on what you can do to breathe new life into your body, mind, and spirit. Here are a just few suggestions to get you started:
1. Soak in the tub. If you love taking baths, create a tranquil ambiance — including candles and music — and soak in scented bath salts that relax and refresh all of you.
2. Get moving. For your body, exercise is another important component to include. Be sure to choose exercise you enjoy.