It is much easier to become a needy human being when you are lacking in a sense of self worth or life purpose. This is a HUGE reason that women can be perceived as needy, because they find their worth in their relationship or dating success instead of their own success.
A lot of people live a life, but not a lot of people live a life of purpose. There is an infinite amount of people walking the planet who merely exist here and never take the time to do the self reflection necessary to live a life of purpose, and those people are much more likely to fixate on another human being for their sense of value.
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It’s kind of a rebellious thing to examine your life and make choices based on your truth, and more women need to do this in order to have success in matters of the heart as well as their career.
Below is a list of 10 steps to help you on your rebellious journey to living a life of purpose so that you can avoid being a needy Nancy.
1. Listen to your intuition
This is a big one and is the beginning of any and all roads to happiness. People who listen to their intuition do not second guess themselves and do not have a ton of inner conflict about every decision they make. They are able to get a “vibe” off of what they truly want, and go after it. This simplifies life completely, and serves for a clear sense of direction of where to go. So slow down, and take a listen. Your body and your spirit know best.
2. Trust yourself to follow that inner voice
Once you are able to listen to that inner voice, what do you do? You follow it! This is where it gets real, real fast. This is where we go from listening to acting. This is where the real beautiful rebellion happens. It is necessary to not only hear your inner voice but to follow it. It sends a message to your unconscious mind that it matters. This is pivotal to being connected to yourself and living an extraordinary life.
3. Be in tune with your emotions
As you follow this path, keep a good read on where you are emotionally. Are you happier? Or stressed? These signals will let you know what learning lessons are necessary on your way. It takes courage to be a rebel and go your own road. So be fully “in it” don’t just plow through. Slow down and smell the rebellious roses ;)
4. Believe that we live in a friendly universe
This is HUGE. We see and experience in the world what we think inside of our mind. If we believe the world is a hostile place, we will see that everywhere. If we believe that we live in a friendly Universe then we will see that everywhere. When you decide to take the road less travelled you are already swimming upstream. Do yourself a favor and make it easier by projecting positive thoughts out into your world so that you will feel supported on your path.
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5. Be in gratitude
This also ties into what we think and feel we will experience. If we are super bummed out that we do not have what we want, that this road is tough, that this sucks, and that life is hard. Guess what we will experience? Exactly. We will experience a life that is hard. But if we are super grateful for everything we already have while traveling down this path, then we will experience more unexpected joys along the way as a result of this gratitude.