7 Ways To Parent Better
What responsibilities do you and your spouse take on as parents? It’s important to find your style of parenting with teamwork. How do you help each other? Do you have to ask or is it just expected? It’s important to communicate with one another what your strengths are as parents because it will be easier to divide up tasks. Finding ways to balance each other out is extremely important, it creates a healthy relationship and it also sets a great example to your children on demonstrating how to work with another person.
What are your values as a parent? Think about what you value about your parent-child relationship, write them down. Your list of values will be constantly changing and evolving as your child grows. Try to incorporate at least one of those values each day even when things are not going well. If you’re a juggling parent then try to incorporate your values into themed weeks. For example, if respect is an important value to you, then for that week, you will work on demonstrating examples of “what being respectful is” and talking about it. This way the whole family gets involved.
Be consistent. Don’t give in on some days and then be stern on others. Children need to learn what is acceptable and what’s not. Giving in to your child will allow your child to learn how to “push your buttons” to get what he or she wants. This learned behavior causes inappropriate reactions to responses. If you’re a softy, then change the way you respond by saying something like, "I need to think about that before I give you my decision." It’s easy to give an automatic response and give in because you’re frustrated or overwhelmed. However, your inconsistency then causes your child to possibly learn how to behave inappropriately.
Establish a routine for your children. This is a great learned behavior to establish and it’s probably one of the best gifts you can give your child. By teaching them this skill they can learn how to adapt it into their own lives as they get older. Set a routine for them while they are in school and when the summer time comes as well. For example, during the school year, establish a before school and after schol routine as well as a before bed routine. This will allow them to transition into different events or situations in a healthy way and allow for less resistance. During the summer, establish a routine for when they wake up and before they go to bed.