Shela Dean, Author

Shela Dean - Author, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner - Richmond, VA


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I Believe

Having a great relationship doesn't require hard work unless you're working on the wrong things. I use humor, common sense, and been-there-done-that wisdom to show all couples, ...

About Me

If there's one thing I love to do, it's help couples have better, happier, more intimate relationships. I'm in a happy marriage. But I wasn't always. I've been in the wrong relationships for the wrong reasons. I learned many lessons the hard way and it's my fervent desire that others learn from my mistakes.

Coaching is my second career, one that followed naturally from my first career of 20+ years as an estate and family attorney. I know. To many people "Attorney as Relationship Coach" is an oxymoron. But the nature of an estate planning practice is such that I had long-term, very close working relationships with many of my clients. I worked with couples of all ages and at all stages of life. As part of my practice, I found myself faced with a myriad of issues having to do not just with legal matters but also with how couples relate to each other. Like doctors, attorneys are often the only ones outside a relationship to know when things are bad and getting ready to crack. I saw the impact of both big and small issues on relationships: everything from birth and death, addiction, infidelity, and illness, to who put the dent in the car or burned the toast that morning. I was called on to counsel my clients at critical and often stressful points in their lives: marriage, divorce, a loved one's death, loss of health or wealth, the blending of families.

Because I felt I needed to understand the dynamics of relationships (and wanted a great relationship myself), I studied everything I could get my hands on to become an expert. Before long, I was counseling my clients on personal matters as well as on legal matters. Sharing the wisdom gained in those 20 years along with my personal marriage experience is now my life's work. I help couples have more intimacy in all areas of their life--in and out of the bedroom.

I approach coaching with humor and common sense practicality. How I work with couples is summed up by Libby Gill in the foreword to my first book like this: "Shela has an uncanny ability to make complex concepts easy to understand and even easier to apply to everyday life. Her practical meat-and-potatoes approach, combined with humor and insight, and capped off with a 'cut to the chase' energy, makes it fun to embark on her . . . relationship improvement course."

I hope that I can connect with you too.

The Reason I Became A Helping Professional

The human urge to mate is compelling. Given that, you'd think Mother Nature would have been more generous in doling out relationship survival skills. But, we're left to figure it all out by ourselves. I failed at marriage before I succeeded at marriage. I know the heartache of failure and the joy of success. I hope that hearing my story, my thoughts, and my strategy (one that worked for my sweetheart and me) will help others skip the failure and go straight to success.

Success Stories

Great New Book Endorsement

Woo hoo! My book Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy was just given a great endorsement by Larry James, author of How to Really Love the One You're With. To buy my book visit my website at Thanks!

Marriage Saved

I recently got an email from a woman thanking me. Here's what she said;

I wanted to say thank you! You absolutely saved my marriage which, after 25 years, was on the brink of divorce. About 2 months after I read your book and followed your advice, my husband noticed the change in me. We were no longer fighting and I had stopped sniping at him. I shared your book with him. He read it in one sitting and couldn't put it down. That's when the real process of fixing our marriage began. We are talking more than we have in 10 years, are in love again, and the fireworks have been re-ignited! Thank you, Shela, for making the emotional love in our life stronger and for making the physical love happen again.

Shela Dean
Relationship Coach, Speaker & Bestselling Author

Time in Practice6-10 years
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseRelationship Coach
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesAt my office
By Email
Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)
Via Skype
Via a webcam
Licence informationExpiration 12/31/14
Number 83245
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Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket To Total Intimacy

Want more WOW in your relationship-in and out of the bedroom? ...

USD $13.88

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You Unstuck: Mastering the New Rules of Risk-taking in Work and Life

In You Unstuck, Libby Gill uses cases studies, client stories from ...

USD $12.65

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