Shela Dean - Author, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner - Richmond, VA
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What I Learned About Communication From a Cold Shower

Back when Dale (the man who became my husband) and I were first spending nights together at my home, I gave him the guest bath to use. One morning, as we were getting up to prepare for our day, he asked, “Can we shower at the same time?” I said, “Sure!” and headed off to my ...

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3 Life Lessons for the Shriver Schwarzenegger Children

The greatest gift we bestow upon our children is to live an exemplary life, one they can emulate. But let’s be honest. Who among us hasn’t at one time or another done something we regret and that we hope no one will ever discover. We are all guilty of poor judgment—driving while drunk, walking ...

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How to Seduce Your Partner Every Day

“Dating” is to marriage what “foreplay” is to sex. Dating is the seduction phase of a relationship, the equivalent of the human mating dance where every move is designed to seduce the object of your adoration into loving and wanting you as a mate. In short, once the sparks begin to fly, ...

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Date Night Won't Keep the Spark Alive

You’ve heard it said that familiarity breeds contempt. Taken literally, that means the better you know someone, the more contempt you’ll feel for that person. I dunno. I know my husband really, really well and I’m not contemptuous of him at all. I think, however, that in a relationship, ...

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Respond to the Emotion, Not the Behavior

It was in grade school math that I learned about reducing fractions to their lowest common denominator. I hated math. Still do. “Reducing to the lowest common denominator,” however, is a great way of describing how we so often “sink” to the level of those with whom we are engaging. If ...

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Shela Dean

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JD

Time in Practice:

6-10 years

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All areas, please inquire

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Relationship Coach

Speaker/Presenter

YourTango Expert Partner

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Expiration 12/31/14
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Articles by Shela Dean
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What I Learned About Communication From a Cold Shower

The illusion that communication has taken place can lead to big trouble!

sad girl 2

3 Life Lessons for the Shriver Schwarzenegger Children

Maria and Arnold can make lemonade out of this very sour lemon by using it as a teaching moment.

couple next step

How to Seduce Your Partner Every Day

Dating while married means emotionally seducing your partner every day with emotional foreplay.

couple fight 3

Date Night Won't Keep the Spark Alive

Date Night. It's not enough to overcome boredom and laziness or to keep the spark alive.

man frustrated 4

Respond to the Emotion, Not the Behavior

Mirroring your lover's bad behavior ends up in a stupid argument. Instead, respond to the behavior.

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Couples/Marital Issues